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writes:I posted on here last month saying that my ex dumped me for a girl he spoke to online, who lives in America, who he has never met in person !. My ex and i live in England. I kept hounding him at first, as i was upset, but then i started to get over him, but now i have started to miss him again. I haven't contacted him yet, but for the last couple of days, i have been feeling like i want to speak to him. I'm not sure how he would be with me now though, and obviously, i don't know if he is still speaking to that girl. We were together on and off for six years. He used to say that he loved me more than anyone, but when he started speaking to this girl online, he said he loved her more than me !. He hasn't contacted me at all. I just keep thinking about the good times we did have. I thought what he did to me was really cruel ( dumping me for this online girl i mean ) , but for some reason, i still miss him and it's hard for me to adjust to not having him in my life. They met when they were playing an online game, and have seen each other on webcam and heard each others voices through microphones. I haven't dated anyone else since we broke up. What should i do ?.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (16 June 2011):
 I agree with the other answers - you simply do nothing and let him go. He has moved on I'm afraid, and it is natural to miss him, but for your own good you need to not contact him and get on with your life.
He ended your relationship therefore he doesnt want to be with you anymore, you need to try and come to terms with this and stop thinking about possibly getting back together, because this is not going to happen I'm afraid.
It is totally normal to feel like you want to speak to him, and to miss him - you were together a very long time so it is perfectly natural to feel this way. But what you need to learn, is that now you are broken up, there is nothing you can do about these feelings - you have to live with them and get on with your life.
Give yourself some time to feel sad and get over the break up, it might take months for these feelings to go away so just be patient, it will eventually get better but only if you give it time. Delete his phone number, email address, facebook etc...so you cant contact him when you are having low moment. If you have his number there is always a temptation to call him, so best just to delete it so you can move on once and for all.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 June 2011):
 Don't contact him unless you're ready to let him go. It will only hurt you. You're trying to hope for something that most probably isn't there, and when he wont say what you like to hear it'll hurt you even more, and it'll drive you even further apart.
Let him go, let loose, let him be and have him out of your life. Good riddance too, if I remember correctly he wasn't any good for you!!
You are going through a withdrawal period. You were used to having him around, and it's an emotional shock to have him separated from you so suddenly. But getting back in touch with him will not help you!
It is what we all go through after a breakup, we think about the good times and forget about the bad... Then it hurts a lot. But you have got to hang in there and get through it, and once you're done with him and have gotten rid of your feelings for him, you will feel so much better!
Remember the bad things!! Remind yourself of them, read over again the old letters you wrote to us on dearcupid that list up what he's truly like, what he put you through, what he did to you and how selfish he is and two faced! Don't forget. Don't forget what he did to you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 Let him go. It is time for you to forget about him and focus on yourself.
He could have dumped you for your best friend or a girl down the road. It happens to be one he met online. Consider this, he was a liar and a cheat... Yes, I will call him a cheater. Since he met her and started an emotional relationship with her, while still seeing you.
He is a loser. Look at his actions honey, not his "retty" words. Obviously the only one he really LOVES is himself.
Go out with your friends, meet new people, live life. Let him "live" his cyber life with a girl (who may not even be a girl but some old fat man :P )
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