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writes:I have been going through a hard time lately, so I know that I have not been the most fun person to be around. But, last night my boyfriend basically told me that I am not entertaining. I cried as it really hurt my feelings. I am not a boring person. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): That was really mean. He shouldn't have said that. When you are down is especially the most important time for your boyfriend to remind you how charming and fun and cool you are to lift your spirits. That's awful that he would say that. He is insensitive. I don't know what you should do. If it were me and my boyfriend had said that it would depend on the context in which he said it that would determine how I would feel about it. If he genuinely meant no harm by it and perhaps said it as a "joke" then that would be forgivable. Or if he said it in an argument as a response to you putting him down in some way, then, again, I guess I could forgive it. But if he was just completely serious, then it would show me alot about how insensitive he is and might jeopardize my feelings for him.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 have you talked to him about how you are feeling? explaing to him that you are just going through a hard time and you would really appreciate his support and sensitivity in this. however, your sole purpose in this relationship is not to entertain, and theres alot more to a relationship then entertainment - ie support, friendship, understanding, trust etc. ask him wat he means when he said that, tell him that he really hurt your feelings and you would like him to let you know - in a sensitive way, how he feels. maybe he's just not the type that knows how to 'sugar coat' his words?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 There is a time for everything and he is being insensitive. Just disregard what he says .
Ask him to be more specific . Ask him to clarify what does he mean by that? What he finds missing in your relationship and what can you do or make it entertaining?
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 Hmmmm... I don't see why it should be up to you to "entertain" him especially seeing as you say "I have been going through a hard time lately, so I know that I have not been the most fun person to be around".
Everyone has rought times and it's times like those when you need those special people around you to help you through it.
Perhaps you two need to make more of your time? Why not get away together on a nice holiday/break somewhere? Or perhaps organise some things to do like go out to the theatre, or a gig/concert, go out for dinner or something?
Of course there's nothing to stop him from organising things either.
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