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writes:Hi? Im 15 yrs old and I have this weird feeling towards my male teacher. I can say that we are close because his not just my subject teacher but also my trainor in dancing .I admit Im a little attracted to him . I just want to know if he has this something or shall I say does he likes me? Because I always notice that whenever we are in one place i sometimes caught him staring and my bestfriend also said she notice that his treatment to me is different to them and the same thing too. He also compliments me often everytime I do good and look pretty. Whenever we asks for his help he helps as long as he can . His also lively whenever we chitchat . And I notice that before he just tap my head or shoulder but now when he have the opportunity he would gesture to touch me in my back neck,arm,face,back and right away tickles my side waist .
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2017): Hopefully it is only friendly behavior. Too much touching is inappropriate; and could cross the line into illegal.
The first and most important rule your parents taught you is not to let older-men touch you inappropriately. You should listen to their parental-advice.
You are far too young, and men having feelings for girls your age go to jail. Don't believe me? Let him get caught touching you inappropriately by an adult!
You're too young, and even if you refuse to take our advice; other adults will notice and take action.
If he is getting too touchy; it would be liking you in the wrong way for an adult to like a kid.
Even if you don't consider yourself a child; the law does! And the law will be strictly enforced!
Careful not to make up stories or exaggerations. He could lose his job and legal charges could be filed against him.
You and your friends have to be careful about what you are chatting around. If it is not exactly true, he can still lose his job.
If you really like him and don't want to see him get into serious trouble; stay far enough away that he cannot touch you anyplace but an arm. Ignore this advice and watch him get into very serious trouble very very quickly.
Control your imagination and fantasizing. Grown men are not supposed to like girls your age.
If he is your dance-instructor; he shouldn't touch students any differently. Correcting stance or poses should be the same for everyone. He is supposed to treat all his students the same and have no favorites. If he lifts your chin or an arm or a leg regarding a pose, he's doing his job. It is not supposed to be romantic.
DO NOT ENCOURAGE HIS TOUCHING YOU; OR YOU WILL HAVE TO WITNESS HIM BEING ARRESTED.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2017): Thinking about it maybe you should talk to someone at school because your dance teacher shouldnt have his hands all over you!
As he is in a position of authority he shouldnt be tickling you.
Just tell him "leave me alone" or "hands off" or "are you a pervert?"
Or quit dance because he is getting too close to you or anything like that.
Tell another staff member that you are feeling uncomfortable and you dont like the tickling.
You dont have to put up with it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2017): Teachers do not like girls who crush on them.
It is a teachers nightmare especially when the girl thinks he is treating her differently or special.
He trained for years to make a career and he is trying to teach you.
To think it is anything else is an absolute insult to his teaching ability.
Technically your words with your friends could put this guy in jail!
But his teachers insurance and his union will act upon any legal issues.
If he does anything inappropriate like touching your privates you had better tell the police.
If he is just trying to be nice to you all that's different but don't dream up what hasn't happened.
Tell your mum you are crushing on your teacher and she may find some out of school activities so that you can have better things to think of.
I used to have a crush on my dentist but only to look at.
I didnt really even like going to the dentist but we used to pretend we did because he was good looking.
Find a film star or boyband to crush on because they love it and you can listen to their music which is more fun and you can talk about their lyrics and plan on going to a concert with your friends when you are old enough and your parents let you!
And you can practice singing their songs!
And dancing in front of the mirror to see if your moves look good enough.
Then when you are meeting boys of your age at least you will be able to enjoy dancing.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (8 September 2017):
 No he doesn't like you. He keeps wondering why you are looking at him like that. If you make any untoward moves on him it could cost him his job, get him arrested and get you thrown out of school. Find someone in your peer group to have a crush on and don't complicate either of your lives.
Keep it where it is - in the realm of fantasy.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (8 September 2017):
 He should not be tickling you or touching your back/neck/face. He is being inappropriate, but no, he does not have feelings for you.
Next time he touches you, tell him you don't feel comfortable. Lie, if you have to. I know you have a crush, but he is not allowed to touch you like that.
This crush will fade, but he is verging on illegal behaviour. Please report him to a trusted teacher or family member, if he continues touching you. You will not be the first or only girl he does this to.
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