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writes: Hi There, I have a b/f who lives in another town, I have known him for a couple of years and We have been seeing each other for 6 mths. He is a really nice guy and i love him...but here's the problem he is incredibly busy, i hardly ever see him and when i do we never stay at each others houses (in fact i dont even know where his house is!), we hardly have sex we don't really talk and all he really wants to do is watch tv, it seems, he never tells me he loves me and i feel like a spare part.And then there is my best friend, witty, intelligent fun and fun-loving we have slept together a few times over the years we have known each other and it is always fantastic. Recently things between us have ramped up a couple of notches and we are spending more and more time talking to each other and we both realise that we are extremely interested in each other....I am really stuck which one do i choose???
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reader, julls +, writes (16 December 2005):
Hi girl
Love should be about commitments. the guys out of town does not love you this bit. If he did, he would sherish the little time you get to spend together.Are you sure he is not seeing somebody? The guy in your town show you love in any way he can and I think you should stuck with him. At least you spend a lot of time together and that cold prove that he is not seeing any other lady unlike the guy out of time who does not even treasure the time you get together. When my b/f go away for a week, I would miss work just to be with him when he come back becoz He would be missing me and I would also be missing him. This guy stay far away from you but still he does not miss you. He got to have somebody he loves more wherever he is staying and he come visit you just to be on the safe side if things dont work out with the lady is seeing. sex is one thing we should share with people we love but he does not even think that you are sex starving that is why he is not even trying to pay up for the time you were apart. Lastly you can never love two guys at the same time becoz they are unique and they all do things differently. So stay with one man you really love and who loves you back too.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (16 December 2005):
 Hi there, u seem to have made the choice yourself. From your letter its obvious u r more into your best friend and he is more caring and loving i thinke he is worth giving a chance.goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2005): You choose the guy that treats you with respect, love and wants to commit to only you. You choose the guy that will gift you with his time and attention because building and nurturing a relationship takes time. You choose the guy that you are best friends with. The most solid relationships begin between two good friends. Friends have a profound in-depth knowledge of each other. You see where I'm going with all this?? Yup...your best friend seems like the best candidate, hun. Go for it and be happy. Good luck
Hugs, Irish
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