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writes:Okay so I live in India. Too many family restrictions, they maybe for the good but sometimes I feel I've never had fun because of these restrictions. My dad and I have an on and off relationship. He always abuses me verbal and I always back answer. He apologizes later but we always keep fighting.My mom thinks its not good for me to have boyfriends, okay. So basically I'm supposed to be married by the time I'm 25 I'm 17 now. If I won't have boyfriends how will I ever fall in love. I don't want an arranged marriage, I want to know the guy before I get married to him!Last thing, I want to grow up, start working collect some money and travel. I want to be independent, live alone for a while. I can't afford American college right now. But my parents will never let me do any of this alone. Sometimes I just feel as if I don't belong here. I really want to be independent, live alone for a while and travel after a few years but my parents will get me married. They think I can't do any of this. I've spoken to my mom about this but she laughed and said " I'll see how you do all of this alone, you can do it with your husband though"
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@littlemonster: hey, thank you! But college here is different. I am a good student. We don't have on campus life. We just go to college and come back home. I have an ambition and my parents are with me in it. The thing is that if I ever want to move out or travel they want me to do it along with my husband that is after marriage :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2012): Hey,
I live in India too, and i am 16 too. Guessing your age, i would say u are in 12th same as me. My parents aren't that strict but my mom is, i would tell you one thing, even though they are your parents and all, its your life. your decision and you have to live with it.
Fight for yourself, have a good education then just leave and wait till they accept your decision. And about the boyfriends part, why do they need to know about your boyfriends?
Experience life now, because later on you will regret that you never did.
Best of luck for college :D
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reader, Kassidy123456  +, writes (13 May 2012):
 I'm in the same problem but my dad is the worst one. Right now he got pissed at my little brothers and my sister, my mom, and I. I really don't like him. He is always telling me stuff that Im lazy, but I am an Honor Society Student in high school and have been for 3 years straight. I think my dad is mean and my mom is nicer. I dislike my dad, a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2012): Omg can I tell u I am in the same situation as you!well my parents always had so many restrictions all throught my life..and I always wanted to be independent but it doesn't work for them,m not allowed to have boyfriends either cuz they want to find a suitable guy for me and get me married to him..but I don't believe in arranged marriage at all,the thought of it scares me,I want to be in love know the guy I am goin to fall in love with,travel the world but no all this is taboo:( according to my mom I shld do all this with my husband!!!!!ugh the thought of all this sometimes makes me soo depressed..anywys I know ur going thru the same if u want to talk,u can mail me here..
Take care
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