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*ndrea59
writes:I met my boyfriend online 10months ago and moved in with him 2 months ago. He looks at half naked women online and chats to them. Last month I found out that he had sent nude pics of himself to some of theses women and was asking them to send him pics of them, I confronted him about this and he lied about it saying it happened before we met, he continued to lie until I told him I knew everything, He then admitted it and said he loved me and did not know why he done it and he was very sorry. I have told him that him looking and chatting to other women upsets me but he carries on. I love him so much, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): Dear Poster
It is a very sad situation you are in; unfortunately there is not much you can do about it; you must accept that you cannot change him; if this is part of his lifestyle of who he is, you have to make a choice; can you live with it?
I understand that you love him but you you TRUST him?
If you have spoken to him about this and explained to him how much it is upsetting you and hurting you and he still does it; do you believe he is RESPECTING you and your feelings?
What is a relationship without TRUST and mutual RESPECT?
How can you respect him if he is behaving like this?
I suggest you do talk to him once more, CALMLY;
BUT make it very clear how you feel and that you do not approve of him chatting and sending nude pictures of himself to other women. I suggest you tell him that you are considering moving out as he is not respecting your feelings.Ask him if it would be okay if you had to do that?
Make it clear to him that he cannot have his bread buttered both sides; he cannot be in a relationship with you and still have these "flings" over the internet with other women.
If the guy does not co-operate and remove himself from these sites and stop all contact with these women; well I am sure you do know what to do.
This will not be easy but do REMEMBER: Love is not enough to make a relationship work.
Rather be unhappy without him and have the freedom to meet somebody that will VALUE and RESPECT you; to be with him in this unhappy situation will only delay your agony; the frustration, humiliation and hurt will not go away but will get worse.
Be strong and do what is right and BEST for you; you deserve the best;
Don't settle for second best or for somebody that does not share your moral values and who does not RESPECT you.
Best wishes and keep SMILING.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): Comes a point where you have to draw the line. The guy is lying and you know this, so what do you want to do now? You either live with the lies and be unhappy or move out. If you stay with him in spite of his lies, you are accepting his behaviour and basically handing him a 'get out of jail free' card. Good luck xx
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reader, Taylor-x +, writes (6 October 2008):
 This is a nightmare! He obviously dosen't deserve you if hes doing this! All men are like it though not matter what age you are!! The best thing to do is sit him down and talk about it, if all goes well keep an eye on him and if he does it agian leave, because you can do better! Best of luck xx Taylor
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (6 October 2008):
 What a shame you didn't know he was into that before you moved in with him ey! It would of saved you a lot of hassle. The guy is not only a liar, but mega into his net chat. Which is fine if it doesn't involve loose women desperate for negative attention.All you can do is put up with it, accepting he is into that like a lot of people are, or move back out.Cant make someone stop doing something if they enjoy it. If it was me, I would of moved out by now, cant stand lies or camming in that form.C xxxxx
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