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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Sorry in advance for the length! So here's the story: I'm fifteen. He's twenty. Obviously we can't be together because A, we'd be shunned by society, and B because there would be to much drama from our friends and family if we did. So we agreed (his idea) to wait till I turn 18 to "officially" be together. We see each other all the time and his friends are my friends (I don't hang around with people my age. I just can't/don't connect with them on any level) and we always know where the other is. I love him, he loves me. When I turn 18 several things happen according to the "plan", we date openly, he can legally have sex with me without anyone having a problem with it, we're moving in together, and when I graduate (and hopefully get into the college I want) we're moving to Florida and all that wonderful stuff. Happily ever after blah blah. Well, I want to be with him now. I want him to say to his boys "that's my girl" they know he likes me but we aren't dating and I want to so bad. I want to be able to tell guys who ask me out or hit on me that I have a boyfriend, or better yet, him tell them I'm his. My question is how do I go about getting him to ask me out before I'm 18? I really don't think I can wait that long. Thirty-two months is a long time as is three years. Any suggestions as to what I should do to get the ball rolling? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 September 2010):
You're being too much of a teenager, and not thinking things through like a mature young woman.
He has said clearly, he will not at all date you until you are 18 so anything he does is legal and he wont' end up on the sex offender's register for life, or wind up in prison. He's being totally sensible about this, because he knows what will happen to him, and to you, if something happened.
You've got to listen to what this guy is saying. If you start to try pushing things, he will have to walk away from you for his own safety and life.
You need to stop being an impatient teenager and you need to listen to what this guy is saying. Nothing can or will happen until you're 18. And he will not change his mind about that whatever you do. What he will do is walk away from you, because you'll come across as controlling, desperate and immature.
You have to wait. Do anything else, and you'll lose him.
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