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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear readers,I have some trouble with love. There are 3 guys in my life that caught my attention. 1 texts me alot keeps in contact his name is Ryan he also shows that he likes me. The second one is called Patrick he has trouble with emotions since his ex kinda messed him up, he also shows interest in me but not much there are days where he doesn't reply for days. And the 3rd one is called Jeffrey I met him last week at my new sports he is really kind and nice and has the same interest as me but Ryan and Patrick also have that. The thing is Ryan and Patrick live like almost 2 hours away feom me, and I dont really like traveling that long. Jeffrey lives closer much closer like 15 minuts away from me. ugh I don't know what to do. Patrick shows he cares for me in his own way and I understand he has problems himself. Ryan is really caring and sweet he even started calling me sweetheart or dear. And Jeffrey I would still like to know him more! I am really unsure about what to do. Somewhere I still like Patrick and I like Ryan also but I want to know Jeffrey also..I don't wanna hurt Ryan or Patrick cause I know they like me but I just can't seem to give what they want yet.. cause i'm not sure if I have a crush on them.. I never had a boyfriend so i am really blanco at this areaKind people can you please give me some advice that sends me in a good direction for once.thank you very much
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 December 2012):
 Actually, you don't seem too smitten by any of the guys, if there was one who you'd really like, you you'd not be here asking this question... I think what you mainly like is the fact that these persons seem interested in you and can give you a kind of attention that you hadn't got yet, not the persons themselves with their specific qualities...
Do you HAVE to have a boyfriend ? wouldn't it be simpler to stay single until you meet someone that you are SURE you like without too many doubts and hesitations ?...
If you really feel you have to choose, though, pick Jeffrey. He is the only local one, so the only viable candidate. LDRs are always complicated and difficult at best, and they can only work when there's enough money to vist each other often, and a STRONG mutual committment to face all the challenges of long distance. So- not good at your age, basically a waste of time. It would fizzle pretty soon.
As for not hurting Ryan or Patrick, oh don't worry, they'll get over it. Sorry to sound jaded, but you can't be sure about their feelings, all you know or think is that they " like " you, but from what I get they haven't asked you out , or to go steady or said that they are in love with you or anything,.. and for all you know they could be texting and courting half a dozen of other girls.
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