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writes:Hi everyone I am hoping you can help me figure out what to do here with this little, er, problem.So i have this male friend and we're very close. The only problem is lately i have this urge to kiss him. I haven't done anything about it but the feelings are getting stronger. Added to this, I sometimes fear that soon he's gonna get someone and i'll never have that chance. It's really starting to irritate me, especially because there are two sides to the story. On the one hand, if i do make a move and i get rejected, i know it will change things/i might not be able to continue the friendship. On the other hand, if i don't make a move, i'll be filled with regret as i am already worrying that he's going to start dating someone seriously and i'll miss my chance. What do you guys think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): I wouldn't kiss him, but if you feel he is also attracted to you, why not casually suggest going for a drink. If he says yes, you are on good ground and can take it from there. If he makes an excuse then you can take that as a negative.
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reader, MrMcgalliard  +, writes (16 May 2012):
kiss him, no doubt. ive been close to chicks hoping theyd kiss me first, scared of losing them I didnt kiss them first but now i look back and wish i had...if there is even the slightest glimpse he likes you then do it, be sure to update us ;) good luck
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 Does he like you the same way... have you had the positive signs?
if so kiss him!
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (16 May 2012):
You have an urge to kiss him. But is that it? Do you just find him attractive, or do you actually think you’d like to date this guy? Do you think you could actually make it work if you tried dating? If yes, isn’t it worth giving it a shot? Would the regrets and “what if” question be worse than the certainty that would come with knowing where you stand, even if you don’t get the answer you want?It’s worth telling him how you feel if you want more than friendship with this man. But don’t just move in for the kiss, perhaps tell him that you have developed feelings for him and wondered whether he might like to go on a date? Tell him that you really value his friendship, and don’t want to lose him as a friend no matter what his answer. True, things can be a bit awkward once some-one has declared feelings that the other person doesn’t reciprocate, but a good friendship can survive that, especially if you begin by telling him how much he means to you as a friend,, and be good-natured if the answer’s not what you’d want to hear. The friendship stands a much better chance of surviving if you tell him how you feel and ask him about his feelings, than it would if you just make a pass at him out of the blue. Figure out what you ultimately want from this man so you know what to do, forget kissing for now.I wish you all the very best.
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