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writes:I neeed advice omg im soo stressing out and seriously think ive lost about 1 stone in the past week!I have the most annoying fiance,hes doing my head in!His nana was dying the other week and he rang in sick that day and told work he was upset about it which he wasnt because he told me he didnt care because he never knew her so he rang in sick and then spent all day on his game!! But the day after she did actually die,,then basically rang in sick all week because thats a good excuse to get time off work just coz he hates work so he told me!!sooo i havent seen much he'd rather spend time on his game!! and i can only get to talk to him wenever he's finsihed playing on his game,watever time that wud be,aparently he cant pause a game coz its xbox live??sooo basically he was meant to be staying at mine on monday,and he told me he was off that day sooo i told him to meet me outside work! but he wasnt there sooo i rang him up and he said how he was still at work and hes been at work all day!sooo I was a little confused! sooo I was like why are you at home then? and he said he just came home from work on a break at 6pm which was stupid coz if he was at work he would of finshed at 7pm! sooo i knew he was lying, sooo i caught him out he was at home all day and had pretend to me he was in work even his mum lied to me saying hes only just got back in...and i was soooo annoyed!!!!!then he started crying saying how hes stressed and he didnt waana tell me he rang in sick because he didnt think id understand,and we told each other how felt,then he told me how mmuch he loved me and he stayed over that night and we were fine!then i went to work and try ring him and then he doesnt answer and doesnt want to talk because hes on his game!!!!! and i normally have to wait untill he goes to bed for him to ring me to even have a conversation?even when I talk to him he doesnt understand and he says when he is home he just want to play on his game!! im not stopping him but hes ringing in sick because he hates work then playes on his game all day and then complelty forgets about me??/Im sooo stressed help me:(hes a idiot!!!!!!What do I do
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 He seems very immature as well. He obviously have a obsession with his Xbox, especially if he lies to stay home from work to play on it.
Not sure what you can do, but the fact that he lies to you, is work and asks his mum to lie too is bad.
Question is:
WHAT do you want to do?
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reader, LallaZine +, writes (30 July 2009):
 Wow, this guy sounds proper confused.
I'm confused just reading about him lol. Well, you know what maybe he's depressed or something but doesn't show it. The repeditive behaviour of being obsessed with playing on his Xbox and shying away from work....it sounds like he's someone that avoids things big time! If he is constantly avoiding things, maybe he can't deal with life properly. It's not right taht you should keep feeling stressed over it. You're his girlfriend and you want to feel respected, not just an extension of his Xbox that he can switch on and off when he wants to. I think you should either tell it to him straight, how you're feeling or ask him outright if he's got anything he wants to talk about - like is there a problem at work.
If he's getting his mum to lie on his behalf, it sounds like she will always cover for him. It may not be anything serious, but whatever it is, I think it's about time you got some answers as he's doing your head in and it's not right that you should be carrying his troubles around with you. You need to work out whether or not the relationship is worth hanging on to and don't let him become emotionally dependent on you. You've got a life and you should live it as best you can.
Take care and all the best of luck
xx
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