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writes: I have had quite a rough time so far.im in a relationship i know is doing me no good,and lately everytime i so much as talk to a man i have girlfriends on my back even tho it is innocent it has come to a point where i am scared to look at people in the street ,i have no confidence and have had councelling most of my life,oh and am in debt up to my eyeballs,i live on a council estate where the people will not get to know me but like to think they do when theres a bit of gossip to be twisted.HOWEVER i have the oportunity to go to uni,and dont want to miss this as i can get myself away from this mess.I have a little girl and only want to do the best for her she is 8 yrs old,now my b/f says i shouldnt do it cuz i wont finish it and will be a waste of time i should just get a job but with few qualifications i will never earn enough to support us without working 24/7 i only have my mums support.what in trying to say is should i let this opportunity go? or just do it even tho im scared of failing.by the way my b/f has moved back into his mums now so im trying to support my daughter and me.Am i being selfish should i wait untill my daughter is older?any opinions xxx
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Don't do a degree course because you think it will make you rich as I am sure you know it doesn't work that way. Do a degree because you are interested in the subject matter, and will gain massive amounts of personal development and satisfaction from doing it. Ignore your boyfriends views on your educational potential - he says you won't finish the course because he fears that with a degree you will have the confidence to get a new quality of life for yourself that might not include him. Why not prove your boyfriend wrong...prove the world wrong...get a degree...get an opportunity to raise yourself out of poverty...be a fantastic role model to your daughter by showing that Mummy (like all girls) can do a degree or anything they put their mind to! Remember to ask for help at Uni. There are lots of on campus counsellors and your lecturers can be alerted if you are having any mental health/ stress related problems. Remember to ask about the disabled students grant too (it is extra money and resources for students with various conditions including mental health and chronic stress disorders). Don't feel selfish...you have a right to choose what is right for you...and if a degree feels right at this moment in time go for it.
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