A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:HiI am in urgent need for some counselling for a very bad siutation I have been in for 6 years - stemming around my relationship with my bf - now currently ex againI am have been putting this off for a while but now I am all alone over here in london I need help to get back to place I can like myself again and move onI have had sexual and emotionally abused by him although I dont think intentially for some of it as he has a number of issues and funny enough I still love him and still want to work it out, I know how this sounds as I ready hundreds of books on men who hate women, emotional abuse, co dependancy etc to understand some of itI am usally a person who can say no to this but I have put down and put on so much weight since I started going out with him i dont feel good enough to say no anymore.Please get back to me when you can
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Read the book Co-dependance No More.
Read it often.
Also get some sort of therapy, it will help.
Also read up on the cycle of abuse.
Also write about it.
You should not go back to him until you have done these things.
You may than feel a whole lot different and that is the intention here. Many people in abusive RS's want validation among other things that the abuser simply cannot give, will not give.
You are alone, this is the only way out. In your thoughts and in your future methods of devoted healing.
You now have to re-parent yourself and fully understand that you must be 100% dedicated to YOU. That's very hard for abused people to understand because they feel so worthless that dedicating anytime to themselves seems so unreal. Realize that you are not available to yourself right now, you will need to take the time to become selfish in your endeavor to become an aware YOU.
Through this selfish act (as this is what it will seem to you) you will be well on free and on your way to great RS's with all you wish to meet and you will bring a full feast to the table of life. Not a basket of regrets and pain. KNOW THY SELF..
Best of luck on your journey..
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