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writes: I'm only 15, but I'm worried about the first time I have sex. I'm worried I wont do it right. And, should I shave my pubic hair before I have sex, will he think I'm weird if I have hair. Please answer my questions. Thanks
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reader, bonym  +, writes (3 August 2006):
 Allio121, my dear we have given advice, well at least the advice I gave her is that she is way too young for sex and thats my opinion. Why would she be asking about the future now? The reader is obviously asking about the present.
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reader, Allio121 +, writes (19 July 2006):
 give her advise people not a nagging about her age shes probably thinking for the future for gods sake! anyway personally i dont care what the hair is like but it is nice when trimmed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): premarital sex has a lot of cons. it also defeats the purpose of marriage. and 15 is too young by law, but that doesnt stop teens from thinking about it, there is sex in nearly every movie nowadays! if you really want to have sex with him but really dont want to get pregnant, both of you should wear condoms--- there are girl/women condoms available in drug or pharmacies, too. he should wear one also, for double protection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2006): heya
well 15 is too young by law but tht dusnt stop interest does it? as long as u keep it cool and make sure you talk and understand the person your wiv then it will be fine. make sure u trust and care for the person u 1st have sex with. also you might feel abit guilty b/c uve lost ur ur viginity but this is rly natural uv lost something of cors its sadenin. but dont let this rule ur life its totally natural and normal
i hope everything turns out well
take care xxxx zoe xxxx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (9 July 2006):
 A lot of people have said 15 is too young for sex and technically in terms of the law it is. But it is also a fact of life that many girls under 16 do have sex whatever the rights and wrongs of that. I am not going to lecture you on that front. I am going to 'read between the lines' however and say I don't think you are ready for a sexual relationship with a boyfriend yet. Not due to your age though. You are worried about shaving your bits and you are worried 'he' will think it is 'weird' not to. You are worried about not being good at sex too. Good relationships at any age are really based on non-judgement and communication. If you are worried about such things it means that you are having sex for the wrong reason - sex due to peer-pressure is quite different from sex because you are in a loving relationship. If your boyfriend cared so much about your 'hairdressing' or if you can 'do it right' then it means he isn't mature, isn't that caring and isn't worthy of having sex with. If you care so very much about your 'hairdressing' or sexual skills it means that you are anxious about having sex on a more general level, and having doubts about taking that step. Your anxiety reflects the fact that you are putting up barriers against having sex and should wait a while until you are more emotionally ready. I know there is huge pressure on to do it at your age, but it takes a stronger person to say no. It is also a good test of your relationship - if you say no and your boyfriend stays around it means he actually likes you and not just sex!
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reader, Weezey-xX +, writes (9 July 2006):
the lass is asking for ur advice and all u can do is moan at her age, personally i think if ur redi go 4 it but just be careful. i was scared abotu shaving but i just trimed and that how ma bf seems to lyk it .. go 4 it girl and dnt listen if you are redi drl dnt let no 1 stop ya
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reader, prego15 +, writes (9 July 2006):
All 15 year old girls are to young but im not going to b a hypocrit b/c i just wanted to c what it was like and now im pregnant at 15
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): Hi im 15 also and i know we hate hearing that we are too young for stuff even if we feel ready but sex is complicated and you are too young. You have so much time to think about having sex and finding the right guy but right now sex would just bring you stress and who knows what else along w/ the possibility of getting pregnant. I'm only 15 and i have a pretty serious bf but we both know that we arent going to be ready for sex for a long time so if you are being pressured by someone they arent worth it, if not and you actually want to, then think about all the possible consequences... do u wanna deal w/ that now... NO, you should be having fun and hangin w/ friends or a guy who respects you. Also if you want to explore your sexual feelings and things try masterbation if you havent yet, its safe and a great way to find out what you like which will help you when your w/ your partner. If you're in a relationship then try some safer forms of sex like handjobs. Also, dont worry about not doing it right when the time comes, if its w/ the right person you'll feel comfortable and it will just happen. As for the shaving thing its up to you and what makes you feel good. I personally prefer trimming, shaving the bikini area and cutting it down a bit, but make sure you use a good soap and razor cause you will have some itching. Anyways im sry this was so long but i hoped it helped...
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reader, bonym +, writes (8 July 2006):
You are FIFTEEN. I will not have the cheek to encourage sexuial activity to a girl who is so very young. Wait until you are older, MUCH older and maturer. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006): Hi first of all, yes 15 is young, but there is a difference between thinking and doing. If you really want to you could trim or shave, but really it shouldnt matter. Also you cant do it 'wrong' because it isnt possible. Sex takes time to get used to, and it will depend on who you sleep with as to how things go. Maybe you should wait until you are with someone special, but that is your descion, not mine or anyone elses. make sure you use hormone and rubber protection if you do have sex and always carry a comdom with you if you are thinking about 'doing it'.
Its not a race, and sex is always better in love, trust me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006): whoa wait a minute your 15! and you want to lose it
personally I think you are too young and should wait.
as for the hair I think it shouldnt matter what he thinks only what you think! if you want to you should and as for the ''right'' way to have sex personally I dont think there is one but I heard missonary is good because if it is for your first time you dont have to do much
but please dont do this now you are soo young!!!
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