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writes:The last 3 weeks i have been going out with my mates and seriously taking drinking to another level. I feel like i am now bordering alcoholism. The reason i post this is that whilst i have been out i am being a really bad and different person. On each night out i have kissed girls. I have a girlfriend of over 6 years who i love to bits. When i wake up the next morning i fell so sick all day and for much of the week.I am so ashamed of myself and have told myself that i am not going to go out drinking with my mates and try and straighten things out. I am just so scared of what i have done and dont know what to do or say to my girlfriend. She would be so heart broken but i cant let her know until i get some counceling over the drinking. On a normal night out without the alcohol i wouldnt even consider trying to pull girls. Is it the alcohol or is it me?I feel so ashamed and disgraced at myself for my actions and have no ambition at all to go out again. Please let me know your thoughts.*Moderator Note: Please don't start calling the question poster names. Rather try to give him some support and advice, or don't say anything at all.*
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): You obviously do not love your girlfriend if you did as much as you say you do you would of already stopped!
I think you need to realise you may have a problem and nip it in the bud. Cut yourself away from the crowd of friends you are binging with and start fresh all you have to do is say no to going out and pick up a hobby it doesn't matter what it is just try. I feel sorry for you in a way as you are the only one with control over your life.!! you can change for the better or continue being a drinker?
Don't become an ugly person your probably a nice lad just need direction i hope your girlfriend is a strong woman to help you if you get worse.
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (23 April 2007):
If you feel that you have problems with alcohol, and it seriously is giving you doubts about the true you, all I can recommend is that you get support on this. It is a horrible demon to have to face alone, and there are an array of groups which can meke the whole process a lot less daunting. Try to speak to your girlfriend about it, as it is possible that she will be a lot more understanding than you feel. Indeed, it wouldn't surprise me if she has worked out that something is wrong and at least this might offer some explanation to her.
And please don't judge yourself so negatively on this front, a lot of very good people have weaknesses when it comes to addictions, but there is a lot of help out there and it doesnt have to be as horrible as it appears at first glance
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