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writes: hi im agirl my friend is a girl we got on realy well and we were close when we drank together she would always say i love you to bits dont ever hurt me then kisses me and hugs me alot and starts crying.we went out new year everything was fine the next day she bought my birthdy card round and it was soppy like saying special friends are hard to find but in you ive found mine lots of lve ......then i texed her 2 days after and she said stop texing me she said she wasnt well but then she went out to the pub so i texed saying if ur to bad to speak to me why you gone out to the pub and ever since that she want talk to me and i dont know why and she wont say please help im so confused we were realy close and teld each other every thing lucy
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (19 January 2006):
 To many factors go into someone ditching someone else. So, I guess the best thing I can say is to just be you and the kind person you are. Obviously you care about her and don't want her to hurt, however she's hurting you. People need explainations as to what they did to the other person. You need to just be there when she comes around and she will; come around. I waited 3 years for my best friend to come around and when he did it was over a misscommunication. Simple and ugly, yet I did see his point even though I didn't say it. I apologized for my part in fueling the fire and he apologized for not sitting down and talking to me about it. Now were back on track and better friends for it. Just be available and once in awhile drop her a phonecall.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): AIt can be really hard when this sort of thing happens, I know because I've got a lot of friends who are the
'come and go' type. They can be really irritating, or really upsetting. In this case, upsetting.
If a friend decides to ditch you, there's not much you can do about it except talk to them, you can't force her to be your friend.
Ringing her would be better than texting her, and it shows her that you are a tue friend. Say hello, and then gently ask her why she has been so strange lately and ask her to put herself in your position. When she tells you, don't get annoyed with her, help her, she is your best friend after all. She should be relieved that you heve stuck by her, and are willing to help if something's up.
If it doesn't go to plan, then you are going to be hurt and confused, but like I said, there's not much you can do about it if a friend decides to ditch you except to talk about it. If she's not prepared to listen, then perhaps she wasn't the great friend you thought she was, and you should find new, better friends. I bet if you did that, she'd come crawling back to you quicker than you'd go crawling back to her. Good luck!
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