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writes:Alright, so here's my problem........I've always had sexual feelings for my second cousin.......I'm 18 and shes 27..........when we were younger, I remember her asking me to kiss her on her mouth, I never thought anything of it then but now I realize she was thinking in a sexual manner.........but I've always had a crush on her since I was little .......there was a point in time where we weren't around eachother as much like when I was little, we were only around eachother at family events......lately we have been hanging out together, one day I slept over her house, and the next morning I was walking out the door,and she asked me where her kiss goodbye was, she said it jokingly, well I gave her a lingering kiss on her cheek, it caught her off because I would never kiss her goodbye, she gave me this look, and I left.......ever since, we hang out alot, she cancels her plans with her boyfriend to go out to eat, and go to the movies with me......well we have gotten pretty close lately and she tells me that her and her boyfriend are having problems and she doesn't really care for him anymore, she says that she doesn't want to be with him, she says that he talked her into getting a boob job, and she asked me what i thought, I told her that she looked beautiful no matter what, and that she should do what she thought was best for her, she looked at me, hugged me and gave me a lingering kiss onmy forehead......well for a couple of weeks I didn't see her, and one day she asked if I wanted to go see a movie, when I got to her house I noticed that she got the boob job, she went from a B cup to a D........she looked amazing, she even caught me checking her out a couple of times, and she just laughed it off.......after the movie she dropped me off, and we made plans to hang out and celebrate eachother birtday........well our birthdays passed, I turned 18, and she turned 27......we finally got together and she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend, Ive had these strong feelings for her lately, and I told her that she was too good for him anyway, I looked into her eyes and told her that she deserves someone better.....and this is where it gets heavy.....after I told her she deserves someone better, she asked jokingly if that someone would be me, she said It jokingly, but had a serious look on her face, she told me that I looked good, and said that she was glad I turned 18......then she finished getting ready and we left....a couple of days passed and she asked me if I wanted sleep over, and go see dark knight with her......Sorry for the long story, but its neccessary......so here is my problem, when we go to see the movie......Im planning to let her know how feel about her, and I want to ask her if she will sleep with me......I'm nervous of her reaction, I'm scared she will turn me away, because I really have strong feelings for her, the thing is I'm not sure if she feels the same way.....plus I don't how to go about letting her know, or even asking her to sleep with me...... So if anybody can give me advice, it would really help, thanks.............Sorry for writing so much
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reader, topgun4h +, writes (11 August 2008):
it is not illegal or incestual in the U.S., so go for it!!
good luck!!
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reader, topgun4h +, writes (11 August 2008):
it is not illegal or incestual in the U.S., so go for it!!
good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): look, i just gonna plain out say it..... go for it. i have a similar problem but go for it, if it works great, if not, at least u were truthful to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): well it is alegal, but consideringyou like her so much then there must be something to it, and besides you carn't help who you like.
i think that she's sending you all the right signals to say she likes you, that one comment you said made it pretty obviouse to me.
she probably already knows you like her i bet, she is probably scared to say it out right aswell.
i think if you want to get somewhere with this then heres what i would do.
you could wait for her to bring something up, you know where she says something in a jokey way but looks seriouse, and then recipricate back something she has just said to you, then you could look all seriouse and say, yeh but what would you say if i was being seriouse with you now, and then depending on wether or not she is seriouse about you or not that is when you know what action to take from there.
because what you have just done is asked her out right, so then i should imagine she would be honest if you was being seriouse, then heres were the clever part comes in....
if she looks at you like you are a freak you can laugth it off and go what are you kidding, you my second cousin and you could look at her like shes the freak, note if this does happen you will need to laught and make it look like it was all a big joke, you could even say i have me eye on this girl and she is hot, you no why because she is not my second cousin. that is only if she turns you down.
on the plus side she will reveal all to you in you saying to her what you have just said.
if you need to say something to here thought, you could say your boob job looks really good, i sure hope my girlfriend has ones like those, then you could say if you wanted i forgot, you do have them and then you could laugth...these kind of things will only work thought if you are confident or good at fakeing it, other wise you could look really transparent...
good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): Geez, nobody wants to commit to marriage nowadays. They just wanna jump into bed. If I had a 2nd cous that I wanted to get with, provided I was still single, I would buy the engagement ring. That way, we could do it every night, til death do us part, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): Wow... I wish I had a cousin like that... all my ones are ugly as. Great people, and good friends... but not bedroom material, so its never been an issue.
Look if it isn't illegal where you live, then 'd say tell her how you feel. At worst she will pity you and be flattered but not reciprocate.
But from what you say, it seems as if this woman is sending you all the signals that she wants to get some of your action.
Its up to you if you choose to go ahead, but remember that regardless of law, there will be consequences from family if you get found out adn these are not really accepted even when they aren't forbidden by law.
Flynn 24
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (25 July 2008):
 I had a crush on my cousin once. I don't beleive in it being right to take it any further. It is YOUR life. Live it the way you want.
Tell her how you feel... see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): . . . and to anyone else who thinks that sex between cousins is incestuous or illegal, I suggest you have a really good look around the following website before displaying any ignorance on this one.
http://www.cousincouples.com/
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): Apart from any potential legal problems that only the US is renowned for on this subject, here's my advice:
You tell her that you fancy the arse off her, that you always have done as far back as you can remember, ever since you realised there was a difference between boys and girls.
Life is far too short to go dithering about treading on tiptoes when you should get in there with a pair of boots on. Why beat around the bush? Tell her how you feel. I get the feeling she's just as serious as you are, but there's always the chance she's playing a little game with you, which I doubt, given what you've written. There's only one way to find out. Now get out there and do it!
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reader, damkids +, writes (25 July 2008):
well...its incest but love is love right? i may only be 14 but lol! idk...ur not actually supposed to ask the person to do it /w u. it just happens.
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