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writes:Hi all. Here's my situation, the last two girls who I have dated have broke up with me because they have liked other guys I tell myself just to move on but there is just always part of me that wants to keep pursuing the girl. This often results in some immature actions on my part, such as threatening the guy she likes and other guys who go after her, sending her messages and stuff about all the nice things I did for her and how the guy she likes would never do them, and being with new girls and complimenting them around my exs. Also there was one time where I got all of my friends to tell her how big of a mistake she was making, which didn't go over to well. The trouble is, no matter what I do or what everyone tells me I still feel the urge to do these types of things.I was wondering if anyone has any advice for me on how to stop these urges or any actions I should take?
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reader, TomWilkinson  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 You cannot stop these urges as they are in your nature, I'm exactly the same. The only thing you can do is to make yourself not act on the urges. Be the bigger man and just accept that they have moved on, or at least act like it doesn't bother you.
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reader, muffy +, writes (22 November 2007):
 well,you have to think how unfair your being to the girl.if you really loved her youd let her movve on and live a happy life because its what she wants and it would make her happy.if your having these urges then try to act it out.like if you wanted to threaten her new boyfriend,then threaten a doll and pretend its him.or if you wanted to remind her of all the good things you did for her that her new boyfriend wouldnt do,write everything down and keep it but pretend you sent it to her.or if you want your friends to tell her that she screwed up big time,which is a mistake because the girl feels guilty,then just call your friends over,make one of them the girl and have the rest of them tell the guy whos being the girl that she screwed up.or if you wanna make your ex jealous by flirting with another girl in front of her,then flirt with another girl but not in front of her but in front of your friends and pretend that they are the girl that you want to make jealous.
i hope i helped ;)
love and kisses
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