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writes: i have PAS.i have just been told that i have PAS which is post-abortion-syndrome and i am so scared.it just seems to get worse and my mother doesnt know about the abortion so i cant go to her.emotionally, i feel like im falling apart...i hate myself everyday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): PAS is not a punishment!!! It is an illness like anorexia and you will get throught it. As a man I don't think Dr Pete has a right to lecture a women on her body and her right to choose. I suggest Dr Pete stops using this website to promote his right-wing, conservative mantra that is based on a twisted notion of right and wrong. Listen to others who have gone through it before and seek help/
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reader, chirpychicken  +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Please dont hate yourself. I went through the same a few years ago. the feeling is the worst ever and you dont think you will ever forgive yourself. You will! even if you are 100% positve you will not forgive yourself and get over this I assure you , You will. You will get older and every day it will get easier I promise but it takes time, in the meantime dont do anything stupid and look to the future and what that will bring. r4ealise that what you have done was for the best and that you did it because it was right for you at the time you did it. theres a bright future for you i swear to god. It will take some time but it will happen.
Hope you can sort through your problems soon
CC x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): PAS, that's a new one to me.
Are you mourning the loss of the baby? feel regretful, ashamed, depressed? This is a very common reaction for someone that goes through an abortion. Unfortunately our society prefer to promote abortion, without educating women as to the possible emotional consequences of it.
If you can at all, confide in someone that you think will understand. If you do not think your mother will handle the news very well, then you do not have to necessarily tell her. Try and tell someone though.
The thoughts and feelings you are having are normal and it is a process that you will find yourself having to get through. It seems to be very similar to mourning the loss of a loved one, that is because it is a very similar situation.
You need to try and hold on to what the decisions were for you choosing this option. I am assuming you gave this decision A LOT of thought, and you must remember that you came to this decision for a reason. Reassure your self that those decisions you made were right for you.
I won't tell you that you will be ok, not because you won't, but because I don't want to feel patronising, but I can tell you that women who suffer the emotional pain from an abortion can, and do, become stronger women because of it. Women who have been through this experience assure themselves that in their future, they will do things differently. Try and mourn the loss of what has happened, but then promise yourself that from what has happened, you will never have to make the same decision again.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (15 June 2006):
 It sounds like you really do need to talk to someone about what you're going through, this is too big to go through on your own. I'm sure the decision you made to get rid of the baby was the right one for you and for your future and, in time, you will see that. You just need to come to terms with it and someone to talk to is priceless in times like these.
If you don't feel like you can tell your mum and you don't have a partner you can trust, why not find someone professional? Go to your doctor if you can't afford to do it privately, but this may take a long time to see someone. Look into the types of counselling you can get, there are some great professionals out there with all the skills and experience to help someone like you who has been through something like this.
Good luck and hold your head up high. It was the right decision for you at the time and I hope you soon come to see that.
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Hey Huni,
Its perfectly normal to be scared when in this situation,
do you not have the farther or a friend to talk to about this. can you really not tell your mother because all though she might b mad im sure that she'll be there for you cuz you are her daughter n she'll luv you very much. its always best to have someone with you that you trust that way things wont seem as scary. Good Luck
Helen x
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