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writes:i'd been with this girl for bout a year im 30 she's 22 and a little stunner!! she moved in almost immediately cos She lived at her Nan and Grandads(who were v nice people and liked me) as most of her family seemed to use each other and back stab and they didnt hav much to do with her. it was intense, the sex was 3x a day min throughout the relationship. She would always be telling people about the sex, we had our rows but things were goin real good,but we broke up for bout 4 days in april i begged her to come back then but she ignored me totally for 3 days, i got drunk and had a 1 nite stand with this girl,which i regetted and never spoke after, then we got back together for 5 months and she neva knew bout it, I was so guilty about it that i been so patient with her since almost tryin to make up 4 it but towards the end we had a huge fight she was hittin me and stuff so i told her about it all. She went nuts! She went away for a few days and she wouldn't talk to me.She then did talk after 4 days and told me she couldnt trust me again and she never would have done that so soon after us breaking up, and she never cheated on me. That was 6 weeks ago,4 weeks ago i went away, when i got back she called me. She thought i was seeing someone and got all jealous even tho she was the one who said its ova, so then i blew out this other girl to see her and then she bailed sayin she couldnt come round cos she knew we'd end up havin sex then she'd wanna get back together and she couldnt do that to herself cos her family will dissown her!! I have a feeling for them to hate me so bad she must have told them a very 1 sided version of events im not that bad. If she dont want me, or is with someone else why stop me seeing others and tellin me she misses the sex and me?? we talked 2 weeks ago and again she was givin me all the usual shit bout loving and still wanting me said she had a 1 nite stand but wasnt seeing anyone, thinks we need some time but she missed my dick and the sex was the best she'd had and really missed it(i hav very hi sex drive) but her family have been stressing her since xmas to finish with me, and with the few arguements, everytime we split she went back to her nans to live. She was never there long 1 nite normally, and they'd call me. She said her nans old and it upsets her so much wen we argue cos her granddaughters hurt that she begged her to not see me again, the whole family have now started to talk to her again and she feels if we get back together then split they will dissown her. I asked her if she would try again if they gave her their blessing she said "probably" The next day she text me saying she'd cried all nite thinking bout me but as must as it hurts it's what's best and maybe time apart will help!!! (that old chestnut) but I think she's probably seeing someone. I kno she didnt cheat, and what she does after us isnt my business, but what hurts is why say all that to someone, especially if you're with someone else, if you dont mean it. I have had sex since her but its her i miss and at my age i shouldnt be letting it get to me, im a good looking guy, i have had plenty of offers, but its her i want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): It sounds like you both are in some kind of orgy. If youre both jumping people after a couple of pints of lager, there is no real future together. I would wait untill you both mature before looking for a solid relationship.
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reader, xLamentedxAmourx  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Well, it all comes down to the matter of that one night stand. She did, after all, break up with you. You had every right to do whatever you wanted. So do not feel bad about that. It sounds to me, she just really misses the sex. Not you particularly. Lust and greed are powerful things. Only she can decide what she does. If her family disowns her, there is no point in even attempting to stay in the family. She says what you want to hear, and expects to receive rather than take a risk and be with you. She wants you, but feels it is not worth it ultimately. She is indecisive is all, and she will keep screwing up because of it. I know you want her, but if she is not going to try, then why continue trying? She sounds like she is 14 -16 year old girl. I guess the best thing to say is, you can not have everything. I suggest trying to let it go, and move on. But whatever choice you make is completely up to you. Do what YOU think is best.
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