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writes: hi i feel stupid doing this but need to tell someone, im living with a woman who i met about ten year ago she has 3 children ,ever since i met her she has been voilent towards me just last night she attact me with a knife and smashed a plate over my head reulting in aa 2 inch deep cut across my forhead ,she always theatings me that she wants me out of the house but i have no where to go and i dont want to sleep on the streets also ive just beeen layed off from work recently and have lots of debts which stops me from renting a flat ,i know this sounds stupid but im a 41 year old male stuck with a voilent partner up to now i have 7 scars across my head and body off her ,may i also add that i have never hit or tryed to hit her back at anytime can anyone give me some advice as i now feel suicidle ..thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): I don't have any advice for you because I'm dealing with a very similar situation. I don't know how to get out either. I feel very suicidial as well, I wish I could tell you things would get better. But, I don't really have any hope for myself either. I want out so bad but don't want to become homeless. I'm scared to go back to my parents because I don't want to seem like a faliure. The physical and mental abuse is becoming overwhelming. I feel as though I'm living on a Roller Coaster with so many ups and downs. All I know is I'm scared. I'm only 21 and I haven't even lived life and I feel as though it's already over. I hope things get better for you. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): hi,i feel for you i really do, my advise would be to find a close friend you can confide in. Ask them if you can stay in there house for a few weeks until you sort your self out,forget about the kids,the debts there are the least of your problems.Your main concern should be your life cos if you stay there you will end up either in jail or dead. u will be suprised how is it will all fall inot place once you have left her, u can also get a family member or friend to be a garantore for a house for you.. failing that there are homeless and refuse centres you can go to stay at they also help you to get a house.
good luck xx
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reader, andrea23 +, writes (23 October 2006):
 i know what you're going through & you need to get away from her ASAP before she ends up really damaging you. my ex fiance was just like her he stabbed me across the stomach then tried to put the knife through my throat & he beat me stupid. you need to be somewhere you will be safe, you could find out where the local mens hostel is & stay there for a few months until they find you somewhere to live & they will get you sorted with some benefits from the dhss. honestly please get away from this woman, i wish you all the luck in the world & please be careful
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reader, b3x  +, writes (22 October 2006):
 I really feel for you right now, It's a shame really as people tend to think when we talk about Domestic Violence its always results in a woman getting beat up. We need to realise this is not always the case.
I have never been in your situation but I envy when you don't lash out back at her,I know my own temper too well (Red hair - hot headed!) You know not to hit a woman even though she is attacing you. My first bit of adivce is to move out and move as far away as possible from her. A friend of mine was once in a violent relationship and she told me to give this webiste address to you....
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/family_parent/family/domestic_violence.htm
It give's you all the information you need and advice on what to do, even in situations like yours where you feel you have no place to turn to.
You say you've been with her for ten years? I doubt by now she will change but if you can't leave her, I would suggest hinting about anger management as it is not the correct environment for yourself or your children to live in.
Keep your chin up, things can only get better, you just need to make the first step. Never stoop to her level though and result in violence, it never does anyone any good.
Don't ever feel stupid telling anyone anything, no matter who or where you are someone will always listen to you. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2006): awww thats terible i feel for you soo much. Havent you got any family or any freinds that mite let you stay at their house. Your rite you do need to move out you cant live with someone that is abusive towards you. Get out while you can. If you cant find anywere try talk to her tell her how you feel and that she shudnt be doing this it will affect her kids gud luck x
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