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*on1991
writes:The question I have is the most simple question, that probably every man has asked himself at one point or another. How do I meet women?I have tried online dating and it hasn't favored well for me. It seems that whenever I get a match, the conversation becomes one sided and goes nowhere, if I even get a response at all. I don't have many single friends who are willing to go to a bar or something like that with me, and I think it will be uncomfortable for me to go by myself. I feel as if I have run out of options. I in my late 20's and have not been in a relationship in 6 years. Which would I feel would probably freak out a lot of women. When asked I always answer honestly and it truly does not bother me, however I can usually see the initial shock in their eyes (as if they are thinking "what's this guys deal?")In short, I have no idea what I am doing when it comes to dating and would just like any advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, N91  +, writes (5 January 2018):
 You have a good attitude towards it.
It will happen for you one day.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 January 2018):
 Nothing wrong in not wanting to date. Some people prefer being on their own.
Just don't try and date when you are "desperate"... Date when you FEEL a need for a partner. Someone to SHARE life, experiences, memories, good and bad times with. Not someone to fill a void because you are desperate...
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reader, Don1991 +, writes (5 January 2018):
Don1991 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the responses.I am pretty comfortable with rejection and my mind will not linger on a person for too long. I have never looked at my situation as a burden. I feel worse for people who have never even experienced love, so I am grateful.I think just not caring is the best option. Just being myself has gotten nothing accomplished. Sorry, maybe I asked this questin out of impulse and just got in a lonely mood. I really don't care about relationships. But I will take your advice if I ever get desperate.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 January 2018):
I agree with N91,
Don't try Tindr and those kind of hook-up sites. Some (but very few) get a decent match but mostly it's all about hooking up and nothing more. Bars and clubs can be a bit of the same too.
Maybe look into meetup groups. And hobbies can also provide you with a group of "fresh" people to get to know. Even trying NEW things. Cooking class, hiking, bookclub... it's all up to you.
As for not having dated in 6 years, well I can see why a woman might think "that's odd". But you can always say that you were more focused on work, career, friends, family and you just didn't meet anyone who rung your bell.
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reader, N91 +, writes (4 January 2018):
How did you meet your last GF?
What are your hobbies and interests? Do they have local clubs you could join to meet like minded people?
As for online dating, it may be worth joining paid sites as people on there would be much more likely to be seriously looking as opposed to freebie sites.
If you're putting yourself out there, there's not much else you can do. You're bound to take a lot of rejections, everyone does, it's part of life but you can't just stop trying or you absolutely will not get anywhere with that attitude.
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