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writes: How can I become a likeable person? God, I feel like such a weirdo writing this but I've always been a bit different. I'm a pretty, nice, intelligent girl but I've always been a bit of a loner. I'm an only child and both my parents were killed in a car crash when I was 7, which in itself makes me different. But I've never been able to open up to people and I've only ever had a few friends, which I've never managed to hang onto. I really try but it's like I'm missing something that makes people want to be friends with me. I've been going out with a great guy for 3yrs and its become clear that if i ever lost him I'd have no one, and that's so scary. I always kinda had one friend at different stages but now I've lost them all and have become so isolated. I just don't know how to make friends. Please could you suggest something because I've reached rock bottom and I need help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2006): Go to www.mindperk.com, and click on the communication box and there are books on making new friends and being able to forge a bond with anyone. I myself am buying the two books,Instant rapport and how to make friends and influence people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): Why don,t you take up a new hobby that might make you new friends I was once in your situation it was horrible but then I found some knew friends that are chavs but I became a chav myself and now I drink and smoke but don,t start smoking it is hard to quite I realise if you wear designer stuff you come more popular but be careful that you don,t get friends that use you from amanda
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2005): What kind of hobbies, or activities interest you? Find something that involves other people and then go out and do that. People are more likely to get interested in you if they share you same interests. It means they will always have something to discuss with you, and share with you. You also have to make an effort to get to know others. Stop being wrapped up with yourself all the time. Find some charity work to do, through a church, or other groups. If you want to meet women your own age, hang out with women your own age. Get to know them. Ask them questions, and answer the same questions, when they ask. There are books in the libraries you can read on how to learn the art of conversation, and how to meet people. Look them up, and study them. There are very good tips of advice for singles. But, get out of the house and do something for others. I was raised in a musical family, and during the Christmas holidays, my brother and I were encourage to go down to the local shopping mall, and play carols with the Salvation Army players. We were not members of the Army, but the men and women appreciated our company. It was fun, it helped them raise money for their work, and we got to meet people. I don't remember any lasting friendships, but friends who saw us playing made a point to mention it later. We used our talents to please others. That is a nice way to make and keep friends. In my later years I have become a pretty fair cook. I sometimes will cook up something special and take some over to a friend, or acquaintance. It is always met with a smile and usually with many thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2005): well why dont you go out on the pull with a cousin or something or by yourself and just make friends in a club. it will work believe me.
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