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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been going out with my partner for over 4 yrs now. But i am at the point now of deciding whether or not to end it. There is a considerable age gap between us and perhaps this plays its part in the problems. My partner does not trust me nor has he since day one. Numerous times i have been accused of being or wanting to be with other men because of having general conversations with them or even being in their company. The most recent one's were with my soccer coach who i only see at soccer related events and a guy in work who has a common interest in dogs!I have never wanted to be with anyone else, and have told him so repeatedly, it just hasnt sunk in.I went along with these accusations at the beginning, hoping it was a settling in problem and it would end. Now its driving me mad with the sarky remarks, endless accusations, hacking into email, phone and other accounts, and even sending texts to my friends pretending to be me. All to try and get evidence of something that doesnt exist!I have been totally faithful to my partner and would never cheat on someone, but im at my wits end. I wish he would understand what he means to me.What should i do??
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reader, Helfer  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 An entirely new approach that I would suggest, is maybe show him this page, and what what the accusations have brought you to?
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reader, eddie +, writes (1 June 2007):
 This willnot end until he controls you. By giving into his wishes, you will only reinforce his madness. You should not pay the price for a crime you haven't committed.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (31 May 2007):
 If he isn't willing to trust your word, then he won't trust you. The only thing that you can is walk away. You deserve someone who can deal with you having friends of the opposite sex. It sounds like he's really paranoid. Paranoia can become dangerous. Get away while you can.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (31 May 2007):
 You've already told him that you have no interest in other men and he wont accept this.
Has he been hurt in the past by an ex girlfriend? He doesnt have to right to go through your mobile and emails etc.
I think you need to tell him that you love him and dont want anyone else. If he keeps doing this then i think he may push you away.
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