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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone.. I am going to keep this short. I will highly appreciate it if you guys could help me with this. I wont say I came from a broken family but my parents never got along. Because of family and societal pressures, they just lived together. My mom was always nice but I was really scared of my dad always coz he was very intimidating since always. He would never encourage me for anything in school bt would not leave even i chance to criticise even the smallest things. He would always make me feel like i am always wrong. I never had any relationships till high school was done. and then the bf i had used to abuse me verbally and because I confided in him with all my house and family secrets, he once threatened to tell all of tht to my dad if i left him. I did leave him eventually. But I guess because of these, I have major trust and self esteem issues. Right now my life is okay. I love my second bf, he loves me..His family is kool is us too. Also, my dad has become very understanding and my mom was always loving. However, it takes a smallest of thing for me to start mistrusting my bf or any decisions in mylife. I always think negative and feel like my bf is just trying to use me and stuff. I have not even slept with him yet. I would really appreciate it if someone could tell me,how to not let such things affect you, how to raise my self esteem and believe in myself more...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): Before you start telling him about family issues, make sure he's the right person to tell. He may seem nice but you may have to take time to get to know him properly. When you fully trust him, then tell him about previous life. It will make you feel a lot better because if you trust him and he loves and trusts you then he will undertstand, comfort you and tell you what to do
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