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writes: Hi, I'm worried that there's something stopping me from forming a relationship. I have always had quite a few male friends, men have been interested in me for sex, but I rarely meet anyone who wants to actually have a relationship with me.When I meet someone that I want to have a relationship with, I tend to have really fallen for them, and this usually ends up with them telling me they're sorry, but not interested, or with me keeping it to myself because I sense that nothing will happen (and it doesn't). I don't seem to be willing to try a relationship with someone that I am not instantly attracted to, or who doesn't seem to have some kind of chemistry with me once we've got to know each other a little.I feel like I'm losing out if I can't bring myself to go out with someone that I don't have strong feelings for, and let the feelings grow while I'm with them. What's wrong with me?! Reply to this Question
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reader, TJ +, writes (7 May 2005):
There is nothing wrong with you, you are just experiencing normal feelings. But don't fret, the right man for you will come into your life you just have to learn to relax and take each day as it comes.Don't panic when you do meet someone new. Just start off as friends and love will follow if it's meant to. Concentrate on yourself for a while and find new hobbies and interests and maybe you will meet someone through this. Good luck.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (6 May 2005):
 You may be putting across the wrong vibes unconsciously so that men are reading you wrong. They may sometimes think you only really want something casual and other times, they may be scared off when you realise how much you feel for them.Give yourself a break and get to know the opposite sex just as friends to begin with. Even if you don't believe the physical attraction to be there initially, it doesn't harm to be warm and friendly. Find out about them. Use the situation as experience. Do the same when you meet someone you really are attracted to. Relax and be yourself. Ask about them and only reveal a few details about yourself until you get to know them better. Take your time, don't rush into a relationship. It will work out fine in the end.Good luck!
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