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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have left my daughter's father last November. He's been verbally putting me down and he doesn't see that it's really hurting me. When we were together, every so often, we were argue. About his whereabouts, who he's talking to on the phone or on line. The reasons to these questions, is he's cheated on me twice. I still love this man but we had to leave (my daughter and I). I wasn't going to let my daughter be in that type of environment and I'm not going to put up with it, so I left. I admit, I said things I shouldn't have said however, I couldn't hold it any longer. He's emotionally and verbally hurt me. My daughter at times, stares at me wondering what's wrong (she's only 17 months). Yesterday, he constantly calls me at work needing my daughter's information which he should already have a copy of and his case worker should have that too. I'm wondering why is he calling after his verbal abuse yesterday. I keep hanging up on him because I don't want to be bothered by him. I am emotinally hurt by him however, I still love this man. I just want to be left alone, free from his negativity. He's gotten his two kids from his previous marriage turned against us. How hurtful is that? He's already gotten a girlfriend and possibly pregnant and that hurts. All I can do is grieve and move on. How am I suppose be civil with this man if all he does is verbally put me down? How am I suppose to talk to this so called man if all he does is give me attitude? It's always, I left him, I left him. And why? Not putting up with his cheating ways, verbal abuse any more. He's done enough damage. A person can only take so much. When my daughter gets to an age where she understands, I will tell her why Daddy and Mommy aren't together.
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reader, miss fit  +, writes (4 May 2007):
i may only be 13 but i feel greatly for you. this man is horrible and deserves to be shot but i think you should ignore his abuse and act like what you already are; the bigger person. lots of women are too wimpy/ pathetic to get out of crappy relationships, but girl- U GOT BALLS!!
miss fit xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): I am sorry for your grief. Try to remember that this man is spiritually sick. Everytime you have contact with him, concentrate on you breathing, remaining calm and repeating to yourself that he is sick. He is actually begging for your compassion and forgiveness. Only through forgiveness will you truly move beyond this man. Who knows, maybe when he sees that he no longer affects you with his abusive ways, he will no longer bother trying to hurt you. Continue being strong and be proud of yourself. You did something alot of women wish they had the courage to do, especially with a young child! Take care!
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