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writes:Hello, I have lost the will to live, I am a 21 year old male. when I was born I was deprived of oxygen and as a result i developed learning disabilitys/difficulties. I have a very poor concentration span, and co-ordiniation problems. This really did effect my performance at school and also as a result the other children saw that I was different and would bully me and call me such words as 'spastic' and 'retard.' in my teenage years I was diagnosed with having a mild form of autism known as 'Apergers Syndrome' as well as some charctiteristics of ADD. ever since leaving school I have never had a long term job. from the age of 16-19 i went to college and completed a media course. as my school record was very poor. I have not been able to find long term employment and life has always been an uphill struggle and i have been feeling very depressed I am currenty in a long distance relationship with a girl from spain. she is doing a 4 year degree and is currently in her second year and we have been together for 18 months (I live in england btw) I cannot hold down a job because i have to keep visiting her and my work see's this as a holiday and then because i take too much time off they get rid of me.I live with my parents and the thing is my mother has always been over patronising towards me because of my learning difficulties and she overcompensates and treats me like a child, I have learning difficulties but i can still feed my self,wash myself,dress myself, go to the toilet unattened and all the other every day tasks. I just find this world very cruel, and i feel like an incomplete person and just wish i could of been something so much better, ...I am a 21 yer old man I shouldnt have to be relying on my parents this much.if anyone out there could give me any soloutions or help it would be much appreciated i really am at my lowest point at the moment i just dont know what to do anymore...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): You're parents love you and want to help you, but I think the are doing you a disservice by doing so. You need to rely on yourself more and on them less!
We all want to spend our life on "holiday," but unfortunately, we can't do that. We have responsibilities that we can't ignore. And our means of support is too important to just blow off to see the one we love!
If you want to be more independent, you need to work at becoming more independent! And the first step would be to find a job, and keep it! Don't let your difficulties get in your way. Find the determination to overcome them and succeed inspite of them.
Replace those voices in your head that have told you for so long that you are unable to succeed, with your own voice. Tell yourself YOU CAN DO IT!
Good Luck! Think Positive!
Britt
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reader, tenfold  +, writes (31 May 2009):
i'm not a religious type of person. much towards a freethinker.
but i still believe god created us human all equally. for example my little cousin. he is born without fingers on one hand but when he was like 6-7yrs old he is playing cards, shuffling the stack of cards like no other kids of the same age as he can do.
if we are down on one thing definately there is something else we are good in.
despite your disabilities, i see that you somehow managed to get pass those hard years with patience. To be able to forget bad times is a blessing.
just one question i wanna ask you. did your girlfriend know about your disabilities? if she did know and still be with you, i'll say You are a very lucky man.
Live everyday to the fullest. No one can control what you think. Only you can. Don't absorb the negative things people said. Keep thinking of the positive things.
Cheers bro. Best of luck.
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reader, bi_KID_bi +, writes (31 May 2009):
hey, I sympathize with you. I have a really bad learning difficulty. I also have ADHA. Btw I'm sixteen. I have passed 1 subject in school since the begining of grade 8, the subject I can pass is furnishing (wood work). When I was a bit younger 10 11, it used to get me down because I wasn't as smart as all the other kids. But I found a love for sport and motor bike riding, it put my ADHD to good use. I also learnt to live with it cause it ain't gonna change. And now at age 16 I actually prefer it, I don't have to live up to being smart and good at school like my brothers. And also if I was normal I would be shit at sport.What you gotta is find something you are good at and love doing. My personal opponion would be to get a motor bike. It is a great release of anger and gets the adrenelin pumping which makes you feel on top of the world and indistructable.So find something you are good at. It will take your mind off everything.Hope you find this helpful!!!!
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