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writes:Please help,I have just discovered some very loving and sexy texts on my husband's phone to another woman called Anne (he is in bed asleep). Something made me look, I have NEVER thought to check before. Don't ask me why because he has always been the best husband so I thought.Should I confront him (I feel like running upstairs NOW) or wait and try to catch more evidence.Should I text Anne pretending to be him and set a trap (although he would probably find out when he next spoke to her).We have been married over 30 years and I am distraught to the bone. How can I handle this???
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reader, boo22  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 Hi there, so sorry this has happened. I'm trying to put myself in your shoes and I wouldn't be waiting for more evidence. What are you hoping to find out by not confronting him? What else do you need to know now?
Your intuition is obviously very keen so your subconscious must have picked up that something was not right. When you do it is up to you, but you must take action and confront him asap.
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): hi there, it could be nothing more then a "text friend" that he's obtained through a service, or could be more. personally i would confront him, although you run the risk of him becoming more "covert" if he is going to do it again. i think that once he realizes you are hurt by it, he will 'fess up. my bf was on a dating site and fate brought it to my attention, since he'd posted a picture (are men that dumb or do they really want to be discovered? i have a theory on that!!!) so really, you don't have anything to lose by asking him about it. the only question that i do have is how did you discover the text? was it beeping or something? this person could be a 'fatal attraction' type other then just a 'texting friend' too. i mean, just be careful in your approach. if you and he have a healthy marriage otherwise, he really should be confronted and have this person NOT text him again (service or real person). women to text men they know are married sometimes do so when they know the object of their affection is asleep, too. you could do a search for further details, like see if the number does come from a service or how often he's received them (if from a real person, probably won't be many-if he's deleted them). just tossing a few ideas out there, but imoho, ask him. you have a marriage with him, not her, service or not. best of luck xo kb xo
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