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writes:Hello Aunts and Uncles.Having slight issues. I have picked up trust issues over the years due to partners cheating. I have gotten much better at trusting people but im finding it hard at the moment since i met this new guy. He has said it had been over for months he just need to get the courage to end it. so a couple of weeks later we are somewhat together and they had officially been broken up for a week or so, but i find myself slipping into old habbits that i thought i had lost and i want to sort it now before it comes a problem. Anyone got some answers ? would be greatful thank you very much xx Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 I guess your trust issues have re-appeared because he was talking to you before he was officially broken up with his last girlfriend. They are not long finished so am guessing you may be worried that you are a rebound or that he is a cheat. I guess that is normal because once a guy is talking to another girl when he is still in a relationship it plants seeds of doubt in our mind and makes us wonder if he will do the same to us down the line.
I guess there is nothing really that you can do. You are emotionally scared from the past like so many others and it is sad really. You just need to take things slowly and get to know him better. Ask him to always be open and honest about you and how he feels even if it is bad and just try and learn to trust him. Don't take out past problems on him and blame him for things men done to you in the past. You need to give him the benefit of the doubt and remember that not all men are the same and not all men will cheat on you it was just a case that the men in your past where not right for you.
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