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writes:Hi, I Am 14 Years Old, And I Have Had Sex With My (Also 14 Years Old) Boyfriend. However, It Was The Once, And I Want To Keep It To The Once But He Wants It More Now. I Dont Want To Lose Him Becuase I Love Him But I Want To Wait Til I Am Legal (16). Is There Any Other 'Things' We Can Do? To Keep Him Interested Because I Love Him. Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom  +, writes (5 January 2008):
When you add sex to a relationship the sex itself becomes a major emphasis of the relationship, at least for a while (months to years). You don't have to do ANYTHING to keep your B/F interested because he already IS interested - interested in sex!
You are wise to realize that you made a mistake. If you want your relationship to grow, your boyfriend must also realize - deep inside himself, and not just because both of you are so young - that it was a mistake. Until you and your B/F can agree that it was a mistake it will be a source of friction and conflict between you, and prevent your relationship from growing.
It may not be easy to convince your B/F of this. Maybe he already realizes it and a frank, honest discussion with you will do the trick. More likely, you will need some help to convince him. Perhaps a mutual friend, or some adult in his life can help you convince him. This might be a coach, teacher, close relative, older brother or sister - somebody he truly respects. It will take a lot of courage on your part to find this person and persuade him/her to help you convince your B/F. I hope it works out well for you!!
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reader, chica_23 +, writes (5 January 2008):
dont let him make you feel like u r pressured. keep interesting by being attractive and doing some things, without going all the way.
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reader, alwaysndforever +, writes (5 January 2008):
babe im 15 so only one year older and my boyfriend is 17. i love him soo much and we had sex twice and now i dont wnt it n e more i want to wait till im older cuz the risks r too stressful. if he gets un intersted in you because you dont wnna have sex then that is actually pathetic. clearly it shows hes using u and if u cant see that ...then ur blind. if hes just horny but doesnt care if he doesnt get some then give him rele good head..im so good at it now nd my boyfriend loves it!!! i wish u luckkk but for real babe..dont be used. it sucks and i promise theres guys out there that can make you see how much your worth =]
Xo-always&&forever
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You Everyone.. :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You EveryOne =D
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (4 January 2008):
 well i think you should say what youve just told us really and be careful you can try foreplay and that and dirty talk he might like that but dont go other the top message me if you want to talk im 13 and ive had sex it was also a mistake so u can message me if you like xx for a better chat
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): I think you should have sex! I was like you when i was 14 but go for it!!! im 16 now and i don't regret having sex more than twice a week when i was 14 and now I want to do it everyday. Don't worry just use a condom and you will be fine look at me im not pregnant and i've been doing it for years!!!!!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (4 January 2008):
 I think you made the right decison here. Yes you did it once and relised it was a mistake, and now want to recitfy it. Tell yu BF now that you want to wait until you are 16, if hes OK with it the "things" will come naturally, like kissing and light "petting" which is ok for your age. But dont do these do keep him interested he should bne solely interested in you and not the rewards of staying with you.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (4 January 2008):
 Why did you have sex with him if you weren't going too do it again? what have you got to gain in that? you must realise he would want more. You opened up a gate now, you should end it if you want to wait which you should have done in the first place
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