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writes:Hi all,I really need opinions and views on this as I find it hard to speak to people as I don't want my friends to judge me.I cheated on my boyfriends of 2 years (still together now) when we had been going out for just 2 months. It was heavily influenced by the other guy (not an excuse, just the truth) and it was a drunken mistake. The cheating was just a kiss (un-passionate and no tongues)but I still feel very guilty, this to me is no excuse. Even though it was just a kiss, to me, is an act of betrayal and I feel I could of handled the situation better and say NO! I am so confused-obviously this is cheating but should i really be beating myself up so much? I don't know what to think. To add- I didn't love my boyfriend by this point. I realized I loved him after being with him for nearly a year and this is when the guilt started to kick in- I can't go a day without feeling so guilty. Do you think I am beating myself up over nothing? I know it was just a kiss but is no excuse :( I know I would NEVER even think about cheating on this amazing man now, because I am too in love with him! I can't help but think he deserves better than me :( Would you feel guilty even though you had only been together 2 months, also me and my boyfriend had not slept together until 5 months and I would not of cheated after sleeping with him! I can't bring myself to tell him because I know it would end badly :(All comments/views are welcome ASAP!Thanks very much,Anonymous
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2013): Thank you for all your answer- these has been more than helpful!
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (16 July 2013):
 Don't beat yourself up anymore. It was a silly mistake but it's in the past so move on.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (16 July 2013):
 Hi, don't beat yourself up. Leave it in the past and enjoy your relationship. Put it down to a drunken mistake that your would not repeat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2013): I think you are being too harsh on yourself.It was a simple quick kiss, it was 2 months into your relationship and in a year you fell in love with your boyfriend so you should just chalk it up to experience - what never to do again, forgive yourself, purge yourself of it, and vow to do better by him. Telling him at THIS POINT will only lead in disaster as it will cause insecurity, trust issues, and anything else which is history!As long as you no longer have contact with the offending partner in crime, then it should be fine. If you ever find other guys attractive, doubt your own commitment, think you might do it again no matter what the excuse, then there is no hope and you should feel guilty, come clean and deal with the consequences, even if he wants to leave you from no longer trusting you.So be firm and committed, or let him be free to be with someone who is equally committed.
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