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writes:I have been in luv with my cousin for the last 4 years...I'm 18 now and an indian (kerala)...but i haven't told her... for that matter i haven't told anyone except my best friend...whenever we r together its a lot of fun...i really enjoy my time with her...and when she goes back it's like my heart will jump out to see her. I tried to stop myself telling that it's wrong but then i can't i don't know why..i don't know if she has similar feelings for me but i don't think so. I'm a muslim and i know muslims can marry cousins but den what will my family think.. that also she is my first cousin she is 1 year younger than me...she is not that beautiful and all..i have seen many gals but have never felt such strong attraction to anybody..i guess my feelings will remain in my heart 4ever...i m scared 2 tell her because if she does not have any feelings den she will think that i have only seen her from that sort of view and it might affect our friendship..it would b very kind of anyone who could advise me in this matter..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): I have to say having feelings for a first cousin is not a pretty thing because its condemned by both religion and society, and my honest opinion is that its better for you to forget her because even if she were to have the same feelings as you, there isnt any guarantee that you are going to be accepted by everybody, and also ive read/heard that if you have sexual relations, and you conceive a child there are higher percentages that that child will have a big impact with bad diseases....I do think that it would be good that you find someone else who isn't related to you. I hope you found your answer by this time, and luck!
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reader, Scottt  +, writes (12 December 2009):
I have loved my cousin forever and she has not only loved me back, but I have no guilt at all. I didn't know what love was tilwe realized that we belonged togeter. Don't forget, we don't maake the rule's, we just gotta do the best we can. Peace.
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reader, love_for_tonite +, writes (9 September 2008):
Hi!,
I am from India too and i have the same feeling as you have with your cousin. I was dumped by my girlfriend and i was going to commit suicide. I was totally lost. But my first cousin has helped me in getting out from this strange situation.We share feelings. Today, we keep contact with text messages but she really dont know that i love her and i cant really live without her since she saved my life. But, i am fearing that if she will refused me to accept this relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): Hi, i have a cousin that is really cute and 1 year older than me, when i see her i want to make her have a good time... it is not wrong at all to have sex with your cousin, but first u have to tell her what you feel for herhelp: rent a scary movie and watch it with her, but you have to do it when no one is around, then toutch her legs and look at her face, if you think she is likeing it, keep going, but if she askes you what are you doing, just say sorry and try to forget because you can get in trouble with her parents. good luck
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reader, Keria  +, writes (8 May 2007):
First of all, there is nothing wrong with being attracted to your first cousin. I find is almost funny to hear people mocking the idea. Obviously they have been affected differently by there social setting than you or I have by ours. It is more common with Muslims to marry 1st cousins, but it does also happen in western countries. Catholics may not be permitted to, but most protestant christians and certainly secular people can and sometimes do marry 1st cousins.
I think you should talk to her and hint that you might like her a little more than just a friend. You need to start off subtle, and as you tell her more, try to guage her reaction. If she seems completely uninterested, then it is easier for you if you have not told her outright.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): only you can decide, however if you dont think she feels the same you are rite to be cautious that you dont damage your current relationship.perhaps you cud use your friend to make subtle enquiries of her to try and see how she looks at u.if u feel there mite be family objections u want to be sure of any steps u take.on a positive note - love is love and if strong enuff feelings are shared - who knows
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (8 May 2007):
Dude, she's your first cousin. Your role as her older male cousin should be one of protective male relative.
Also, if I understand your situation properly, expressing desire for your cousin may end up tainting her in the view of her family as they may not have considered her time spent with you in that sense. Doing so could irretrievably damage her reputation and marriageability.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): i dnt kno what is going through your head right now but u need to erase that thought from your head. she is your family it really isnt right, i would say you and your friends should go out try enjoy yourself, you never kno u might find miss right good luck.
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