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writes:Hi, I need help, or more or less guidance because I have feelings for my 14 year old adopted brother. He hits on me and I know that he feels the same. I want to stop liking him because I know that these feelings are unacceptable and i feel like im preying on him and messing with his development even though he swears im not. I'm scared because he is perfect in the best ways. and i just want help..some advice because i feel like im at a breaking point. I feel real ashamed and disgusted with myself and I just need SOMETHING SOMEONE to help me with this problem..Please reply and feel free to be honest. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): If you are really into him, then I would go for it. Next time he hits on you, flirt back and let him know you are interested and that you want to pursue a relationship with him. You are not blood-related, so it would not be incest. The only thing is that if you want to get married, you may need to check the laws in your state or get your parents to un-adopt him so that you can marry him. But for now, as long as you are into him, then go for it. Talk to him and let him know how you feel. You can't help who you fall in love with, and feelings aren't right or wrong, they just are. So go with what you feel and enjoy the experience, no matter what others say. I agree with those who say don't tell your parents, and you might not wanna tell your friends either. Best of luck to you. If you talk to your adopted brother and he agrees to pursue a relationship with you, post back here to let us know what you both decided to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone who answered. and when I said perfect I mean personality and physical wise. But mostly personality. He shows all the qualities I look for in guy. And no offense taken I appreciate your honesty but thats not what I am after.. Im really into to him. Thanxx everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): The other posters have covered it pretty well.
The attraction is understandable and it's not something to tie yourself in knots over. But it would make a hell of a mess if you acted on it any time soon.
This is part of growing up. Not only having sexual/romantic attractions, but learning when you should and should not act on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): okay to be honest it seems like your only after him for sexual needs.. your adopted so its a bit more acceptable, so don't be ashamed...if your going to have sex with him, MAKE SURE you have a condom, NO parents... they will get pissed. because i use to have feelings for this adopted sister i had.. she was hawt ^_~. but i was to young lol. you should give more details on how you describe "perfect" though.... nice body? friendly person? thats all i can say personally i really see nothing wrong with it just because he's adopted... maybe i'll be against you on the age. when i was that young i already knew about sex and watched it. its not like the kids at school don't talk about sex or joke about it...its almost impossible with how tv is nowadays. so much implications and suggestiveness.. and only reason i would be against it is the fact you might get caught with your parents. best choice u can do is just imagine him and you know.. by yourself. good luck take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): you shouldnt feel disgusted you cant help who you fall for i say follow your heart :)
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