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writes:Hi there, I'm 16 years old, and I'm gay. I don't want to be gay, because I want to have a life, where I get married to a beautiful woman, and have great kids, and be successful (I'd like to). Plus people who are gay are really frowned upon where I live, and you mostly hear about people getting beaten up for it. So anyway, around 12 I really liked this girl, I'll call her Eve on here. So I really liked Eve, and I faniced her for quite some time, and when I was 14, some kids started to talk about me, and come up with rumours and tell people like my best friends that I was gay. I didn't like this and I hid myself away from everyone else, but when my teacher found out, he sorted out the bullies right away, and made it ok for me to come back to school. But after that, I began to develop feelings for this boy in my year, and I began to fall for me teacher that helped me. But I also still like this girl Eve. Now at the age of 16, I don't feel these feelings anymore for my teacher, I look up to him, and he is my inspiration, I won't to be like him, he's married to a beautiful woman, got beautiful children and is successful in what he does, and I wish I was him. He's my hero. But I still get these feelings for boys. And I DON'T want too. I try not to watch gay porn, but can't resist it. I don't know what to do! I can't take anymore, I don't want to be gay, I want to be straight, but I don't know what to do. I do get attracted to girls a lot, but I am more attracted to guys. Anyway, is there any help out there, I'm not a religous person, and I'm sorry to anyone out there, but I don't believe in God, is there anyway to get through this without religion and prayer? Thanks so much for taking the time to read this.
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (21 May 2010):
Growing up... I DIDN'T _WANT_ to be gay either. But at some point, if you truly are gay, you'll just face up to it. I would say though, that if you really feel that you are gay and you suppress it... the more difficult it will be and the more self-loathing you'll feel. If you need to 'mask' it from others... that's fine. Date the girls, act straight, etc... until you can get out among others (during college) where you'll be more readily accepted for being yourself. Then you can 'come out' and perhaps fall in love with someone... who will also love you back.
Trust me, just because someone is gay... doesn't stop them from being successful and even having a family (raising kids).
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reader, tengu-goddess +, writes (21 May 2010):
CALM DOWN!!!
You are 16 years old. Chances are that you are a bundle of raging hormones...Don't worry about being gay, you might not be. You could just be curious...
Things should start settling down after a few years and then you will be sure or not.
And just because you like someone it doesn't mean that you have to act on those feelings :3
Also, as the previous comment says - "Be true to yourself! Don run away from who your really are!"
T-G
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Hi
it's ok to be gay! There's nothing wroung with that! If you still like girls you are probably bisexual. This isn't a bad thing either!
if your gay doesn't mean you can't have a family (one way or another) !!! there are loads of cases like this where there are two same sex parents
Be true to yourself! Don run away from who your really are!
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