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writes:Okay. Huge problem/dilemma/ I don't know what to do situation. I believe I may well and truly be in love, and this, this is really really really rare for me. I have had two relationships in the past which were abusive and just crappy, but now something has happened which I never expected like ever. I have a friend who I have known for some years now, we have always had a very close relationship and we do call eachother bro and sis. This friend of mine has always stuck up for me, been there to protect me when others have tried to hurt me, cheered me up, got angry when an ex of mine was being abusive, hes always just a phone call away and he comes round almost every Saturday and we chat, eat and play games together. He is a truly wonderful guy I can't even begin to explain what a remarkable person he is, but now I believe I may of fallen for him and as we are two people who call eachother bro and sis you can imagine how difficult this whole thing is. I've had a little thing for him since my mum pointed something out, she pointed out that she was convinced he had some feelings for me, it was just little things he would do, like he once told me his dad said to him he thought I was really attractive which is kinda odd coming from him, he is always there at the first sign of trouble no matter how far away I am, he protects me, we always have a great laugh and he will sometimes bring round loads of munch for both me and him on our gaming nights. He even once told me he was talking to his ex again and asked me my opinion and everything and the way he said it was as if not to worry me he was gonna get back with her, but I mean why would that concern me? After that I listened to my mum a bit but still can't figure out if he sees me as a sister or maybe something more. But yeah anyway this thing I had grew a little but I just ignored it completely, but last night I had a birthday get together with a few friends, we had some drinks, played truth or dare and my dare was to kiss him for however long. Obviously me being "like a sister to him" I thought he would have a problem, but no he didn't not at all, infact I think we kept on kissing a few seconds after we were supposed to stop. I even apologized for it later on and he was just like "oh no worries its fine". But then later on in the game when he got a truth he was asked who he would prefer to sleep with and he said my friend because we were too close, but is he just saying that as a cover up so maybe I don't get suspicious. Then his boy mates all went to the pub and he stayed with me and my friend, and I got a bit too drunk and he was like, you can lean on me if you want (we were sitting on the sofa) which I thought was really kind. So yeah then he left and I went to sleep, and now i've woken up and I just have butterflys :L I am so nervous about liking him and I just can't figure out if he likes me too. I don't want to risk the great friendship we have at any costs, but I think my feelings are getting to boiling point and I just need to know what you guys think? I mean, I was pretty sure he friendzoned me as a sister, but if so, wouldn't he have a problem when it came to kissing and stuff? and I still don't know why we carried on kissing a few seconds after the standard five seconds? Maybe we got lost in the moment or maybe he likes me? Can someone give me there opinion and just tell me what I should do? I'm mildly confused but also a bit too happy because I can't remember the last time I liked someone in that way even remotely. Not to mention my mum won't stop going on about how she thinks he really likes me so I need a second opinion? Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf I knew that there was nothing to risk or lose, then of course i'd like to be with him. He's the definition of perfect and he's the only man in my whole life who's stuck by me, so thats saying a lot. I have loads of insecurity's though, I am afraid of rejection big time, I have and probably always will find it hard to admit my true feelings to someone, and my biggest fear is if I tell him the truth and he doesn't feel the same, then it could make things so awkward for us. Since I posted the question he's been talking to me over facebook loads since yesterday talking about last night, hes been a tad flirty and he said something a bit odd but at the same time promising he said "oh last night was great I can't wait to talk to you about it all when I next see you." and I was just sat here thinking, talk about what exactly? I mean we had been talking about last night all day on facebook so you never know what else he wants to talk about. We are seeing each other next on valentines day, he's coming round for some munch and so we both feel a bit better as we are on our own, which is sweet again. I'm just so nervous, I think i'm just going to try and give out the right signals and maybe things will just happen or he will get the signals and act accordingingly, I think thats the best option.
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reader, mrs lynch +, writes (10 February 2014):
 Hi there!
If i said you will not ruin the friendship! What would you like to happen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2014): Well you aren't really his sister so there is no reason to have problem with kissing you over a dare. My and my friends did the same thing sometimes.
He probably likes you but no way of reading his mind. Best way to know is to tell him how you feel. He might feel the same way and waiting on a sign. Don't wait to tell him because if he finds someone else, you will be left with regret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2014): hmmm, i think he likes you. he seems more nicer then a brother. it reminds me of the hunger games where gale and katniss have this thing for each other. but if he likes you which i'm convinced he does, your relationship will work out. maybe you can ask him who he likes. or if you play truth or dare, you could maybe ask your friend or someone who knows you like him to say, "you like her." you could see if he says true. gud luck!
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