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writes:Hi I am a 27 gay woman who recently started dating someone. She is 29, attractive, intelligent and we seem to share lots of interests. Normally I would have liked to continue seeing her, but recently I developed very strong feelings for someone else. I have met a woman who is 30 years senior to me, but I really enjoy her company. I am incredibly drawn to her, she has the most amazing eyes I have ever seen and we have an uncanny level of similarities. I don't know what to do, she says that if she were younger she would have wanted to date me and I feel the same about her. I don't think we could ever be a couple, I want to date young people while I am young, I will not get another opportunity in life to be 27. There is also the aspect that she kind of sees me as her daughter, I don't know what to think of all of it.I have lost all the pleasure from the company of other women, I just want to look into her amazing eyes and spend time with her. She is gone now back to the States and has said that I could come and live with her if I wanted to, she would adopt me. I don't want to leave where I am now. But I find it so difficult to forget her. She wants to stay in touch with me, only on the level of significant friend but I am worried that this will mean that I will miss her more and more. What should I do? Will it pass? Should I continue seeing my same-age date when I am sure she will sense that my thoughts are somewhere else. Reply to this Question
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reader, Starlights +, writes (8 July 2009):
 you need to give yourself time before u start dating anyone else.
u have developed an infatuation with the older woman and this will take some time to pass.
you know nothing will ever come between u & her, as she see's you more as a daughter.
accept this and take each day slowly, it might take some time before u feel ready to have someone else in your life again.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): She is not wrong for you, that's a thing to clear.Though we can't say that she is the right one.She sees you as a daughter and that's the deepest thing she can offer you. And on your side was the affection in her eyes or, the way I see it, the comfort she gives to you.It will pass sooner or later. Time can do so many things.You can still try to be in touch with her for she is a good friend. You will get over to your emotion as time goes by.Seeing a another lady is a good option for your situation but try to think of your date not on somebody else.If your not ready to do that, try to do other things because you might end up having a fight or just losing her.It is just my opinions. Hope it will help.
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