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writes: I have some emotional baggage that I'm not sure how to deal with, and I hope people here can help me. Almost two years ago, I broke up a serious relationship with a man who was also my best friend. I had my reasons and though I struggled with it for awhile (do I still love him? don't I? etc.) I have come to terms with it as being a good decision. I met most of my closest friends through this man, and we remain close (the friends and I) to this day. I had become romantically involved with one shortly after this other relationship. That didn't last too long however.My problem is this: I have started to fall for another friend and he happens to be the brother of the man I was in a serious relationship with. I feel like we could really have a good connection, but I'm a little worried about the strain my baggage would have on our relationship. He seems to be interested in me too. The other problem is that he is entirely inexperienced in relationships, and I am not. I fear that this and the fact that some of my experience is with his brother would intimidate him. Any suggestions? Is this just too crazy to keep thinking about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): Don't worry about the experience in a relationship bit, that isn't a problem as such. We are all different. BUT i would advise to tread carefully with this bloke. He is the brother of your ex. I would be inclined to not get involved with this one. What did you fall out with your ex over. His brother will have some of the same genes in him. Also, how well do they get on? Are they going to be comparing notes in the future? It's the same old family thing. There are plenty of gorgeous blokes out there without picking another from the same family. I would definately walk on this one. Take care. x
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reader, blackcoffee +, writes (10 November 2006):
I think deep down inside you still want your ex. Why else do you unsist on being in his circle and dating in it. Getting with his brother is a way of keeping contact with him. Don't do it. Many have taken that route and regretted it. Find a man with no links to your ex. Dont cause a stink btwn brothers. Your ex may pretend to be cool with it but trust me he is not. How would you feel about your sister dating your ex?
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (10 November 2006):
 I think u should try it shouldn't be a problem if you ended in good terms with the other guy, c'on your an adult and not a teen go for it
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