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writes:I have been in a wrong relation for last 3 years. Please read my story and guide me.i was working in a company. I had huge crush on my MARRIED coworker. He also used to flirt with me. Once he asked to hug and kiss me. I denied becoz i wanted to keep myself pure 4 my future husband. But i could not sleep that nite , i was disturbed and then i moved to him just to experience kiss( i know that was my wrong step).We used to kiss after 15 to 20 days. I got mad for him. I used to crave for him and started liking him, but at the same time i knew he was not mine.Then he stopped talking to me,stopped kissing me ,he said that he want sex. He used to say me that i was boring, orthodox, no sex appeal. He likes girls and believes in enjoy and forget. He said he don't have any fellings for me he just want to have physical pleasure. One day i called him at my house. He forced me there for sexual intercourse but i didnot allowed him.My situation was getting worsed. I decided to leave the city and move to my grandparents.I told him that i was leaving the city, he asked me to meet him for the last time. He said sorry for his misbehaviour. He said he couldnot give me love due to social barriers. He asked me to forget him and get married with a good guy. He said that i am a good human being and he respects me.Asked me to give him my new cell no. and to be true frnds forever. After going to different city i called him up. Suddenly he started sending me emotional sms on daily basis and started calling me every week. again i got attached to him. He said he wants to meet me completely.I told him that i can't sleep with man who don't have feelings for me. He said that he don't want to spoil my life tahts why he don't get emotional with me but he wanted sex with me before my husband. He says that right from childhood he never got love in life thats why he don't believe in love. He also admitted that he had sexual relations with 2-3 girls apart from his wife.After 5 y of his marriage his wife refuses to have sex with him. They have no issue. He said that he likes to talk with me. He says that he has given me nothing now he wll give me physical love.He said till death he wll be in my contact. He also wants me to get married and have a happy family. On our last talk he said that he is coming to my city in jan and he wants me to be with him for 3 days.And at the same time he said that he don't love me. He said if u love me truly then u wll come to meet me. I don't know wat he is? Out of anger i messaged him that i can't be with someone who don't love me. I wll keep on loving u till end wish u to live a healthy life. I can just be your true frnd forever. From that day onwards he has stopped calling me. Stopped messaging me. He said i hurt u becoz it is good for you. I wll go mad. I don't want to hurt someone. I feel pain for him. He is disturbed in his life. I think basically he is a good man but circumstances changed him. I think he is having some mental disorder . I also judged that he has double personality disorder: Good at sometime , bad at sometime. I am in dilemma weather he has started loving me or not. If he truly loves me and wants me forever i can sacrifice my life for him. But if just wants physical pleasure then i want to be just his frnd. My parents are searching groom for me. I feel guilty that someone is craving for me and i wll enjoy with my husband. I have done wrong.Please help me to do justice. And please can u judge from his talks and behaviour that he really loves me or not. Should i call him to ask.
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reader, sweetheart43  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 i'm telling you now just forget this weird selfish man that has caused you to experience mixed feelings for him. he is doing this to his wife what makes you think he will respect you! i'm sorry but if you go any futher than i would say you have no respect for yourself...don't be stupid do the right thing and forget about him.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Wait for a man of your own and you will be thankful for that. Delete this man off your phone. Married men always lie that they arent having sex with their wifes. And who would want a man who doesnt love them for themselves and them only. You have been really strong in not giving in to this other man and should be really proud of yourself. Now go one step further, delete him from your msn, phone and don't have anything else to do with him. He is playing on your sympathies. If you ever did sleep with him, trust me, you would be the one getting hurt. He is a player. forget him. sorry but thats how I see it. hope this helps.
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