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writes: I have been going out with my current boyfriend for nearly three years and we are now engaged, I am only 18 and I have cheated before but totally regretted it. I have been working in my current job for just over and now I think I am starting to fall for someone I work with, he is 30 but we get on so well and I dont know what I'm feeling. Please help. Do I risk everything on him or do I stay with my boyfriend who I love? I dont know how this person feels?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (20 September 2006):
 The fact that you have cheated before giving your age suggests that you are far being ready to settle down. Why would you risk everything on some guy at work you have a crush on, you dont even know how he feels and either way, its probably not a good idea to get involved. You need to decide whether you are ready for a settled down, comitted relationship. You are still young so maybe you feel like you still want to have some fun first. Take care. xXx
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (20 September 2006):
 I think 18 is too young to be committing yourself to a relationship, especially since you admit to having cheated and feel urges to possibly cheat again.
If you're in a committed relationship, both parties are entitled to respect from one another. If you're not totally committed to your partner, tell him. But don't go behind his back.
You seem to have wonder lust. My advice: Break up with your boyfriend (to be fair to him) and go wonder. You're not ready to settle down.
You say you love your boyfriend. If that were the case, you wouldn't be here asking for advice.
Good luck.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (20 September 2006):
 I dont think you actually love your boyfriend or the guy at work would not turn your head, and you certainly wouldnt leave someone you love to be with someone that just shows an interest in you. Or is there more you havent said here ?
Yes we all love to flirt and feel good and get someone to fancy us, but thats where it should end. The fact you have actually said Should I stay with my bf of 3 years or date a guy that I dont even know how he feels, then im not sure you should even be with your boyfriend. Im not trying to sound harsh but honey I dont think you are truly ready to be in a long term relationship or you wouldnt have already cheated and be tempted to date someone that shows a flirtatious interest to you.
If you really do think you love your boyfriend and arent just used to being with him and caring for him, then banish this other guy out of your head, its more than likely just work colleagues having a spot of fun and hes more then likely got a girlfriend himself. Now I know I sound all harsh and attacking, but read the last line of your post... "Do i risk everything on him or do i stay with my boyfriend who I love ?" Do you really mean that hun ? That you love him ? See why im taking this stance, if you truly loved your boyfriend there would be no question over who you would choose. And if you are having doubts then there is something wrong in your relationship.
I do hope things work out for you whatever you decide.
Take Care.
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