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writes: I’ve broken up with my boyfriend of a few months and I’m sure that he is the person whose been blocking his phone number and when I pick up the phone the person doesn’t say anything. I know he’s harmless but what makes a person do such a thing? He’s harmless and not a stalker but I just don’t have a clue what the point is of doing this type of thing. Every time we have problems I get these calls. Any thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2006): We are not talking about a young, lovesick teen guy here, hun. This is a older, more mature man who's been in a 15 year relationship and should understand the dynamics of a mature, honest relationship. So if he's making anonymous phone calls to you and as far as I'm concerned, this is a form of harrassment. So I wouldn't be flattered, if I were you. It's plainly obvious he still cares but why not just make the choice to tell you that or not. Why ...supposedly the mysterious phone calls? If it is him, I would be asking 'where is this guy's mindset' and 'why' is he doing this? Why can't he talk...communicate...tell you how he feels? Quite often when people do this, to a past lover-- they are very insecure, lack confidence, are needy , immature and lonely. People like this can be obssessive and that is a very scary, unhealthy way to think. You say "every time we have problems I get these calls". I am assuming then, you and he still see each other socially but are not in a exclusive relationship, anymore? I think you need to tell him you are getting anonymous calls. Don't accuse him, but tell him how these calls are interfering in your life. If he is the caller, the calls could stop. Dear, you have the right to live your life with peacefulness, respect and dignity. No one should be doing this to you. His calls will get to the point where they will be a big nuisance and they will interfere with your life. As far as I'm concerned, anonymous calls are the work of a controlling, jealous person. Nip this one, in the bud. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2006): We broke up but it was due to some major issues. I'll always want to be with him but until he faces some major issues he's having we don't have a chance to make it work. So neither of us ended it because we really wanted too but until he faces some truths about his life we were just wasting time. So I ended it because it was the best thing for me but I would have liked to stay with him. I know the only way that he will grow is if I let him go. I miss him but I don't see what the point is going on like we were. I'm in my late twenties and had numerous relationship while he's in his early 30's and had a 15 year relationship.
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