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writes:Feeling abit upset recently about my looks. I was told i would get my braces off and guess what i still have them. I also have glasses and spots. I get really annoyed and think things like hey why not go the whole way and get fat too! I burst into tears today because i still have my braces on.I have found it hard trying to find a boyfriend over the past year too. I think its down to my looks. Im not very confident anyway and i dont think this is helping. Any advise??
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006): Oh sweetie Your not alone I went though this for so long now I feel good about myself Im 20 it will be fine honestly Take ariels and anon 2907's advice and know you will be gorgous and you are a gorgous person now, Now Im going to sugest how to make you feel better on the outside right now.
1. Get your hair feeling great go to a salon and get your hair done you will probebly get a discount with you being 14yrs
2. next time you go shopping get fasianable clothes that you feel comfy in shop with your friend or Mum,
3. Use a subtle makeup during the day (if your allowed at school) you can get advise from make up counters on which to use for your skin buy a good gentle face wash anti bactireal
4.Eat healthely fruit and veg etc. not only will it improve your skin and body but your mood so you will feel better about yourself
5. Use a good fake tan from time to time exfoliate well first ask for advise on how to apply properly or ask your mum to help
after this you will feel better and you will feel more comfortuble talkin to boys cos you will feel a millon dollors It get easier you will have stunning teeth soon hun as well good luck Ditzy blonde chick xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006): Your braces is there for a reason to improve your teeth and straighten them.Spots weve all had them and we grow out of having them.Glasses big deal most men dont mind a woman wearing glasses if they do then they are shallow to judge you just on that.If they bother you that much there is always contact lences.I dont know your age but i guess you are a youngster going through puberty? Dont judge yourself too harshly I went to a school reunion recently and there was this girl at school who sounds just like you,but at the school reunion i didnt reconise her gone was the braces gone was the spots gone was the glasses plus she was chubby aswell and now she was slim and really attractive.Just dont be so hard on yourself in time as you mature you will soon see the changes and then you have more confidence and you will begin to have more pride in yourself and you could be that woman at the school reunion. KEEP YOUR CHIN UP ;0)
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reader, xsarahx +, writes (13 October 2006):
course its not u jst need 2 hold ur head up high n get out there! i am really unconfident myself but just act yourself n ur inner beauty will shine! use 2 find it hard to get a boyfreind mainly because i use 2 be so shy n would find it really hard to talk 2 lads but now i hav gained confidence n the lads wont leave me alone lol! n you wont have braces for life iv had them n once there off they are worth it! and for spots every teenagers gets spots even if it is the odd one but hu cares dont put urself down cuz i have spots i do 2 but i jst cover them up i guess i wudnt get anywhere without my makeup which is pretty bad lol! n as 4 glasses if ur not happy with wearin glasses all the tym u cud try contact lenses! but i fink theres sum really stylish glasses out there wear them with pride n hold that head up high!! xxxxxxxx
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reader, Love Rockx my Sockx +, writes (12 October 2006):
Aww : Yup Yup i Had the same problem sweetheart its okie and anon2907 + ?, is right. But Do u reeli knw wot the key to being a success in anything is ? - confidence.You need it and ure probably thinking " yeh i dont have it, i cant get it because im ugly" well you're not because beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you need to believe in yourself. you can be the fattest ugliest woman in the world but if u think u are beautiful no 1 ( and i mean it...) can ever crack u and everyone would start to believe that u are the hottest woman alive too.!! u probably have beautiful personality would is the most important thing in the world because when a guy falls for u - he'll fall for u for the right reasons and not because ure a hot slut he can have fun with for 1 nite ( and trust me no 1 respects a slut! )try lookign into the mirror and instead of focusing on the bad things..focus on the good things and begin to make a list: just be easy about it and calm down.Spots? - water (2litres) and fruits that contain vitamen B as well. maybe try making a face mask?braces?- think of that dashing smile you'll have! try exercising - even if ure not overweight it reduces the levels of depression, brings colour back to your face and makes u feel good about ureself.Xx Good Luck xX !
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reader, anon2907  +, writes (12 October 2006):
 kat,
You're not ugly, you're suffering from low self esteem. OK, so you still have your braces on, but they'll be off soon right? - and does it really make a difference? I bet a load of kids your ages have them. And look at Tom Cruise, he got them as an adult - and he still managed to get Katie Holmes to fall for him!
Spots come and go - I've been there believe me - and it's tough. And glasses, well do you need to wear them all the time? Can you get contacts?
Honestly, the people who are worthy of *you* looking at them are going to be the ones to see through you having a bad day and see the beautiful girl underneath it all. Don't be looking for a boyfriend, look for having fun and enjoying life - with your friends, family - and a boyfriend if that's the way it works out.
If you're feeling down about how you look, others will pick up on that vibe - go out there with your head held high and show them what you're made of, I tell you, they'll all be stopping to look at the amazing girl that just walked past.
Good luck,
Anon2907
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