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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm in a fantastic, supportive relationship, but I've recently found out that I could have Borderline Personality Disorder, I'm worried that my boyfriend won't be able to cope with my behaviour for much longer. It's a lot for me to deal with but I can't imagine what it must be like to watch someone you love go through this or to have someone you love behave in the ways I do towards him and others. Should I leave him for his own good? Or maybe we should have a break while I get used to my treatment for the disorder and see a change in myself?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Have you talked to your boyfriend about the diagnosis? You need to tell him. You also need to tell him that you will be trying a treatment, and you don't know what will happen next.
It is very good if you can have a treatment, but life will be a little extra complicated. I think it is best to leave it up to your boyfriend what he chooses to do. But ultimately, it is not fair to have him around if you treat him badly due to the borderline personality disorder. You might know that you don't want to hurt him, that you are unable to control yourself... but things will still hurt for him. It all comes down to how he handles the situations and how he deals with things. It could be he will be able to pull though it, and you getting better meaning you can have a great life together. And it could be that it wont work. He is also young and probably not so experienced in life and how to deal with things.
Next, I think it would be good for you to talk to someone. Perhaps your doctor that recommend someone for you to talk to about these issues. How to deal with being in a relationship, how to proceed. There are also forums online for people who have the same personality disorder, and it is possible to read the discussions they have and ask about how to maintain a relationship.
Don't give up all hope!
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