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writes:There is this girl that I like who doesn't like me the same way back. (Classic, I know right?) I've been nothing but nice to her, and I try to smile and say hi when I see her. How much of a chance do I have of her feelings changing over the course of a couple months? Reply to this Question
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 If she doesn't fancy you, being kind to her won't change that. Love isn't a formula. It's a complex and can't be fully explained. Sometimes an attraction is instant and other times it grows over time, but there's no way to make someone fall in love with you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 August 2012):
 I don't think she will change her mind. She might like you, but not like you, like you.
Just because you like her and you are nice to her, doesn't mean she will magically think you are her knight in shining armor and the love of her life.
Maybe you need to look elsewhere, I think you are wasting time on hoping this one "might possible could perhaps" change her mind about how she feels.
Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs, even pretty ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): If she is not attracted to you then no amount of kindness or friendship will earn it. Women are not "fair" like that. You would have a better chance with her being an attractive stranger who doesn't even treat her very well.
The only thing that will make a scrap of difference in her mind is if she sees other women finding you attractive. So stay friendly with this girl but start investing your time & effort into someone else for a girlfriend. If it works then you have this girl. If it doesn't work then you have someone else. Either way you come out better than continuing to put effort into this girl.
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reader, grymsoul +, writes (13 August 2012):
 Haha, it's funny because I'm in EXACTLY the same boat as you. There's this girl that I like. I'm nice to her everytime I see her and yet I feel as if I'm nothing more than a potential friend to her. I honestly don't know if being NICE ALL THE TIME is the best way to go. I certainly feel like it's a big mistake. I feel like you should be more of a challenge for her to figure out. Keep her guessing, bring a little mystery and play with her head a little. Call her beautiful, step back and let it roll around in her mind. This is what I find works best for me when I wanted to attract a girl. The worst method for me seems to be the 'Nice Guy' act. I think some girls would like this guy but most of the girls I've attracted seems to be more interested in my distant, dark and somewhat romantic personality. I'll make it simpler to understand. Girls that I ignore, keep away from and sometimes reward with attention and compliments have a higher percentage chance of giving me their number. Girls that I'm constantly nice to, sensitive with and continuously talk to have a higher percentage chance of turning me down when I try to get closer than friendship. Maybe it's because I'm obviously ACTING the nice guy part and I'm not very good at it. I'm not saying this is the way it is for all guys, it's just what I noticed works for me. Apply these acts and see if the results are the same for you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 August 2012):
 18.5%.
But in all seriousness, either she likes you or not. It's not the kind of thing you can just put kindness into and expect sex to come out. If she doesn't like you, you've just got to move on.
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