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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i have been seeing my boyfriend for about 6 months but i have always been quite shy about initiating sex and initiating kisses etc. i don't know why it makes me nervous, but it does. Recently my bf says he doesnt like having to initiate everything anymore, it makes him feel uncomfortable and makes him feel like a rapist or something as though he is forcing me and although ive assured him i do love having sex with him etc and love him kissing me, he still doesnt like the way it makes him feel and is not sure that me and him are right for each other if this is how i am. i am 21 and have had relationships before but no-one has ever mentioned it although i think i was probably like this with my ex's too... i dont want to lose him but i feel so stupid everytime he brings it up because it makes me feel like he is scrutinising for improvement and im scared of never being able to hold down a relationship becuase of this silly problem. has anyone heard of this problem before, what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): I have the same problem. I believe the longer the relationship goes....you will get more comfortable. If he isn't willing to wait, then he isn't worth it.
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