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writes: I have accidentally got two girlfriends and now I don't know what to do. I have a girlfriend and we have been together since our teens and have known each other since we were born practically. Although we have been together for so long our relationship is some what an open one.She says that we can have sex with other people and that she is fine with it. It's always worked out fine with both of us finding someone else but it was the other we were serious about. So recently I Started getting really close to a mutual friend of ours who We have known since high school. We have a lot in common so we hit it off right away. But unlike the other people I have had sex with I have been spending a lot more time with her, I still spend a lot of time with my girlfriend. I talked to my girlfriend as one day she seemed a bit off and I asked whether it was about his girl. She said that we are both allowed to see other people an it isn't an exclusive relationship. In the past she has been fine with this agreement as I have been fine with her seeing other men but this time it seems like she is really not ok about this girl.I really like this girl and don't want to drop her just like that. But I don't want my girlfriend to feel that I don't care about her. I mean I still spend way more time with my gf than this girl and we have had many relationships with other people including people we know in the past. I can't understand why this time is different to the other times she is still seeing different people but she seems like she doesn't want me to see other people all of a sudden. Why has she changed like this and what should I do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Delilah1990  +, writes (21 May 2011):
 Maybe your girlfriend has really realized that she honestly cares about the situation but doesn't want to confront you because she is scared of sounding hypocritical or scared that you might shove something back into her face. My opinion is, if you think it's bothering your girlfriend, and it's bothering you that something is bothering her. Call it off with the other girl. It doesn't matter if you have feelings for the other girl, who is the one that you love the most?Who means more to you? And who is the one to more than likely be there for you when you need them?
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (21 May 2011):
This is a classic example of why open relationships are a joke.How on earth can you be in a full-on loving relationship with someone when you can freely go an have sex with others?Eventually things like this happens. You meet someone else who you end up unintentionally having more feelings for than you expected from no strings sex.Your girlfriend has obviously realised this and probably now fears losing you so she has put the brakes on you sleeping around.If you two want to be serious together, it needs to be just you two and no-one else.Open relationships are not only an excuse to freely sleep around, but also a sign that there is something wrong with a relationship.My money is on you two not staying together.
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