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writes:i have absolutely no confidence and cannot have a conversation with girls and some boys. I have a bone displacement in my nose which makes me embarassed and when someone tries to talk to me I try to hide it by looking away, even though they would have probably noticed it already.I can only get an operation to fix it when I am 16 and I am 13 now. I cant even talk to my girlfriend what should I do?
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reader, Ilkboy +, writes (30 July 2008):
Ilkboy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone who has given me help they are great answers and a great help.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 First of all, try to accept the way you are. If you like yourself and accept yourself on how you are, people will feel this too and like you. The biggest thing a person likes from another is personality and when a person has an incredible personality, looks are almost forgotten.
My mother also has some bone displacement on her nose (she fell down when younger) and has to be operated because of health reasons and her nose is a bit slanted on the left. But this hasn't stopped people from liking her or thinking she's a wonderful person, in fact I don't even think they have noticed her "defect". The only reason she likes her condition is because it affects her health, but otherwise she has never though people will be put off by it because she's just a great person.
Start telling yourself that you're a great person. A great way is to make a list of the great qualities you have. Also, you got a girlfriend! Many guys can't even get one, but you did even when you think your nose puts people off. I don't even think she noticed it when she accepted to be with you!
A great way to talk to people is to be yourself and be nice and respectful. I know it sounds cliche, but it's just the truth. If you want to talk more to your girlfriend, just remember that she's with YOU and probably never cared about your nose and only cares about how you feel.
Good luck!
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 I understand you. I don't have confidence neither, even through i look nice, but i often feel stupid when i'm with people who seems smarter then me.
I suggest you try to make conversation and just be nice to other people. You can try new friendships even your nose isn't what it supposted to be. People loves kind and nice person as you can be if you try. Most of people don't decide new friends on depends what they're looks like. And if someone's bother your nose, he/she is not worth of your attention. How did you get girlfriend if you can't talk with anyone, anyway? Explain her what you feel and try to talk with other people. It's not so hard, beleive me.
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