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writes:I've been with my bf for a year and love him lots but recently I developed a crush on a guy at work. Recently things have developed with my crush, and he told me he liked me and wants to have sex with me. I told him I like him but I'm in a relationship, and there was a lot of sexual tension, he kept teasing me and telling me how hard I was making him etc. and asked me to touch him. It took me all the willpower I had to stop myself from cheating but I don't know how long I can control myself.My bf and I have been having trouble in the bedroom for a while now, I have a very high sex drive and his is practically non-existent, but he's told me that sometimes when I'm asleep he masturbates next to me, which is reaping havoc with my self-esteem. I know it's stupid to throw away a good relationship for the sake of a one night stand but I'm so drawn to this other guy, it's so good to know that men can still find me sexually desirable. I've never cheated on anyone before but I'm worried I might. What can I do?
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reader, supersoaker45  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Right now I am in exactly the same situation. I am 45 and has always been in long term relationships where I have never cheated. My current is 14 years total 1 being married. He has cheated in the past and I never has until now, I have maybe because of menapouse and some stress easing in my life have become very highly sexual, in the beginning I used to ask my husband for sex all the time then, I stopped. I started going on different sites and I now have a Friend With Benifits (FWB) and I am getting it not as often as I need it(because I am Married) but more than I was. I could'nt pursue a relationship at work because if things get better at home will you continue this relationship? When people on the job find out will there be issues?What if feelings get involved and he starts kicking it with someone else on the job, How will that make you feel? For this reason and more is why I decided against the relationship at work. With my FWB it issomeone that I can talk to without the strings, either can call it quit and we can still be friends.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 It is obvious that there's a serious problem here. You want help about not cheating, but I think that the root of the problem should be dealt with first. If you want him sexually, and he doesn't, but will masturbate beside you while you're asleep, then something is the serious matter.
You need to take the bull by the horns and discuss all this with him. Sleeping with the other guy won't help at all. If you find you're not compatible, then leave. But don't cheat. It never helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): It sounds as if you and your boyfriend are not sexually compatable. I suggest you talk to him, tell him how you feel, about your needs and try and resovle this matter. If you cannot overcoe this problem, and have a more sexually satisfying relationship, I suggest you MOVE ON; if you are not more satisfied, you will always be tempted; why be in a unsatisfactory relationship almost from the start; with time it will just get worst.
Do not cheat or have a fling with the other guy; it will make you feel cheap and quilty; first try and reslove matters with your boyfriend.
Good luck!
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