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writes:How can I start casually dating and hooking up? I have only had 1 sexual partner in the past and it has been a year since we broken up. I am moving on with my life, but I find it hard to get back into the dating life as I have what is a major deal breaker for many. I consider myself to be on the smaller side in terms of penis size (4 in.). Not to sure on the girth, but to add to that I struggle with premature ejaculation as well and im not talking about minutes. I ejaculate within seconds sometimes during intercourse. I have tried kegal exercises, stop squeeze, and other ways to help "get over" premature ejaculation, but they dont seem to help.I am very open to hook ups, friends with benefits, or just casual sex. As long as they are not ruining relationships and both understand that its just casual. I think I am a decent looking guy, and i can make conversation pretty well. There are times where a lady is flirting with me and i have a chance to take it further than just flirting, but i hesitate because i know i have this deal breaker. I have the confidence to talk to girls and the confidence to perform orally or using my hands, but i have been in scenarios where as soon as my pants drops, the lady bails out. Its a huge blow to my confidence most of the time.How do i communicate that i have a small penis and struggle with premature ejaculation to a girl without them immediately shutting me down. Its gotten to a point where i dont even feel like talking or going on dates with girls because realistically, it will probably end up with me being embarrassed and shut down. I am only 25 years old and date around my age. Of course older ladies probably know what works for them more in terms of sex, but nowadays a lot of ladies around my age have these unrealistic standards that they either seen from porn or from what society is telling them a man should have. I guess what im really asking is how can i engage in casual relationships and hookups, with having this dealbreaker.
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reader, NoodlyCatastrophe  +, writes (1 January 2021):
 How do you communicate that you have a small penis and struggle with premature ejaculation to a girl without them immediately shutting you down?
You don't. Why in the nine cat hells would you do that?
If they want to have sex with you and you want to have sex with them, then have sex. If you ejaculated prematurely during sex, then take it as an experience and proceed to use your mouth, your fingers, a dildo on her, etc, etc, etc. Who said sex is only about intercourse with your penis? Sex can be many things.
My wife uses a vibrator while we have sex. Sometimes, she masturbates and I lick her nipples and tickle her butt valley. I last a super damn long time. So my wife gets me super ready with a long blow job, before we have intercourse.
You don't have to communicate your insecurities and your premature ejaculation. You just need to do it and keep doing it. Experience, friction-conditioning, and attitude are all done through practice. If you obstruct yourself with the technicals even before you do anything, then how will you ever get the experience?
PS: My penis is under 5 inches erect. Besides one woman out of over a dozen, I've never had any complaints.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2020): OK a couple things to get that cock growing. Start taking the supplements being noised about and then get and take the generic Viagra every other night for awhile. It will make you rock hard for your date and the night following. Use the cock enlargers such as a vacuum pump, you should be able to pull your cock out to six inches. For the premature, you have to relearn and get the idea of getting caught out of your mind. Have sex in a secure place for you, no wild stuff until you are in control. Finally before you go on a date masturbate, in fact masturbate often and try to control cumming by edging, stoping short of cumming, keep practicing!
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