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writes:I have a question, my boyfriend last night told me that he was sorry about being snippy at me the last couple of weeks. He then went on to tell me that he has been snippy because he is confused. He went on to say that he didn't want to tell me about it because he didn't want it to risk our relationship. He told me he has been pushing to see me more because he is so confused. I have written in a few times about the influx of female friends he has all of a sudden. This one woman who is one of them didn't tell him happy birthday and it really upset him. I have a sinking feeling that he is in love with her. He talked about her all of the time, they have gone to the mall together, breakfast, also went as far as making sure they have two classes together this semester. I might just be jealous and confused myself, but he won't tell me what it is about. My boyfriend and I have gone out for a year now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): Seems like typical guy stuff (being one myself and knowing many!). He's hedging his bets and keeping his options open. All you can do is love him unconditionally and let the relationship take its course. He's probably not quite ready to commit himself to you yet. He certainly could in time if your love together grows. But all you can do is simply love him for who he is; the rest is up to either his wisdom or immaturity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): he's already cosying up to his new love. He acted badly recently in the hope you would end it. Then his cheating would not be found out. Be very pleased you did discover all this about him, well before you were home with 3 children and another on the way. Learn from this lesson : pay most attention to how a man behaves, observe what he does. His words mean nothing if his actions betray him. And dont get lost in what you think you feel. Your fantasy view of him is not this man. He has been toying with you. He has mentally moved on from you. But things between him and her have escalated to breakfast together, classes together. He's young. He hasn't the maturity yet to sustain a committed relationship, he wants to keep sampling a while longer.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (30 October 2010):
It is probably another woman so you need to take action now if you want to keep him. He has to come clean to you about what he is confused about. All you can do now is work on your relationshi[ mainly independently. take stock of what you may be doing wrong and fix it. Show him you care for him without smothering him. If you feel him slipping away dont let him, be smart and have a plan if you want to keep him. Do not argue, nag, or complain.
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