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writes:Somebody please help me, I have a big problem and there is nobody else I can talk to about it. Im very embarrased talking about and i know i will probably be judged.i guess i wouldnt blame anyone for judging me. Anyway, its a long story so here goes, Iam 20 years old now but when I was sixteen i found out I had a half brother who is two years older than me. Up untill then i thought i was an only child. I was so excited to meet him. When i finally did, i wasnt dissapointed. We became very close. He was the brother I always wanted, everyone was jealous of our close relationship. That was the way things were up untill about 2 years after that. We started to develop lustful feelings we knew werent brotherly or sisterly. We both knew the feelings were there, we just denied them and did nothing about them. Well about one year ago, we both went together to a mutual friend's party. Well that night, we couldnt control ourselves, we ended up having sex. We used protection. the sex was amazing. The best both of us had ever had. Ever since that day, we have a secret sexual realtionship. Dont get me wrong, were not in love and we dont want to run away together and get married or anything, what we feel for each other is pure lust. We actively pursue relationships with other people, whenever were both single and we need a release, we turn to each other. We have never cheated on people we dated with each other, and we never will. We always use protection, also. Is what were doing wrong? It gives us both pleasure and were not hurting anybody else. We keep it a secret and we would never tell anyone. What were doing doesnt feel wrong to me, it feels healthy and natural. Am I wrong? Does anyone think Im a sick person? Should I try to stop this right away? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): As long as you are both enjoying it, there is no reason to stop and nothing wrong with it. When siblings are little, they play lots of recreational games with each other. You are basically having recreational sex with your half-brother. The only reason is you feel is wrong is because society frowns on it. That taboo factor and the fact that you are keeping it a secret makes it feel that much more exciting. So as long as you are enjoying the sex and it is not causing any problems, then I say keep doing it.
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reader, int5 +, writes (26 October 2007):
What you are doing is okay dont worry and let anyone tell you you are sick cause you are not,do what your heart tells you and I wish you the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Their is a website for people of GSA (Genetic Sexual Attraction). What you two experience is not unusual, although by using the word "unusual" I am not saying it is right. There are reasons you feel as you do and the GSA website may help you better understand them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): It sounds as if your half-brother is basically your fuck buddy, since you say you only have sex with each other when you need a release and do not cheat with each other when the two of you are seeing other people. Also, this is just lust, and you say you are not in love with him. Sooner or later you will probably end this sexual relationship. If this is just about sex and you are using birth control, there's probably no harm done. But if you are concerned about this relationship, you should probably see a therapist for help. Let us know if these replies have been helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): i think you shd stop doing it. No matter wat there are many other guys out there if you need a "release". He is your half-brother and it is against morals (incest). Since he is family, it is better to stop. Perhaps you may find this relationship forbidden and exciting, but definitely it is not right at all.
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reader, workon123 +, writes (7 October 2007):
Some secrets are good, if you and him are OK with having sex keep doing it...you both enjoy, what does he think of it. Keep having sex and dont worry what others think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): This causes a slight problem with my mantra of 'if it feels good, do it'.
Quite apart from the fact that what you are doing is illegal, it's an incestuous relationship and frowned upon by society.
50% of your DNA is the same. Although you use protection, it's never 100% safe and you run the very real risk of becoming pregnant and the incidence of stillbirth, death in the womb and birth defects is extremely high in situations like yours.
I'm not going to advise you either way, you can make your own decisions because it's you that has to live with them.
Whatever, I wish you well
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): This needs to STOP. It's incest, no way around it. He's your brother, not step brother but half brother so you got the same mother or father. Your parents will be disgusted if they found out and so would the rest of the world. You need to end this, how would you feel if you had kids and they started an affair with each other?? its sick.
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reader, she  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 hi girl!you know what?! I'm only 17 yrs old but for no reason i really understand your situation.... maybe just a simple advice,,,try to hang out with your friends.. just forget about what you did and your half brother.. that's a big sin.. and ask God for forgiveness,,,, that's all!
take care Girl!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 Half brother or full brother, you already know what you need to do becuase you keep it such a secret. If there was nothing wrong with it, you would be open about it. Since you keep it such a secret, then you know you need to stop.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, masquerade711 +, writes (4 October 2007):
 I wouldn't say you're a sick person...maybe a little confused?
Obviously, the fact that you're asking if it's wrong should send off some warning bells in your head. Trust your instincts, my dear. If your head is telling you that it's wrong, then it probably is.
Secondly, I don't see this as full-blown incest. For one thing, he's only your half-brother, and for another, you weren't raised as siblings. So it's quite possible that if you WERE raised as siblings, these feelings would not be there.
All that aside, he is your brother, regardless of whether he's a half or a whole brother. My advice would be to put a stop to this and try to stick with the brother-sister relationship that you had before all of this. :)
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reader, mulla  +, writes (4 October 2007):
i think you shou;d stop i have half sister who i can go up to and have lustfull sex with but i choose not to coz she is some what way familly to me, no offense but the way u both are going on is yuor using each other for sex and in my book of resepect for women and men i fink that is sick so i strongly suggest u stop it now before someone finds out in he family and makes ur situation worse, neway i hope iv not offended u and i wish u all the best in ur life
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): when i read such things,i cant believe for a second that its true,how anybody can ask if its ok to have sex with your own sibling,its totaly impossible to fancy your brother,maybe i can sort of understand your position as he was a stranger didnt feel like your brother,as i recently experienced the same thing with my fiance and his sister she was all over him not like a sister but like a desperate woman and i let him know how embarressed i was for us both an he felt she was a bit to close,its wrong an sick for such things to take place,it makes me feel physically sick that the though was there in the first place,pls dont let it happen again think about if you was a mum an you learned of this how would you feel(destroyed)
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